Category: Helpful Resources

The Motivation Mastery

by Chris Widener

 

– The media, peer pressure, and everything around us is telling us what we should be. We must grow on the inside in order not to doubt so much.

– When we can accept who we are, we can do almost anything.

– About anything that you want in life is attainable with taking just a few steps.

– Grow who you are – don’t just try to be somebody else, decide to grow as who you already are.

– When you are comfortable in your own skin, you do not have to pretend to be something else.

– No one can do everything alone, you have to have help.

– You have to win in your mind first before you can go out and win elsewhere.

– If you’re not confident, you will become fearful.

– Fear is normal but you have to decide to focus and think about the right thing.

– Attitude will determine your success.

– Turn your fear into focus – remember why you were there and what your mission is.

– Your competitor today might be your ally tomorrow. – Near flawless execution is a result of all this preparation.

– People that are so passionate about things will overcome the fear and obstacles. You must be passionate about whatever you’re doing.

– W.I.N. — Work It Now – Don’t just make sales without making customers.

– The golden rule (doing unto others as you would want done to yourself) is super important, but there is another rule that is super valuable as well: the platinum rule – do to others as they would want you to do to them. This is adaptability, getting on their level and helping them that way.

– You are alive grow according to your curiosity and imagination.

– 1 idea + right contacts = unlimited results.

– First you have to have a dream, then you must have a team, then you will have multiple screams.

– Every seasoned player should have a rookie to help and every rookie should have a seasoned player to learn from.

– Practice doesn’t make perfect, practice makes permanent… So learn from it.

– Listen to the right people and get the right influence, not just any influence.

– One of the worst things that you can do is to believe the press about yourself.

– If you want to learn something, go listen, watch, or be with those that are doing it.

– Failure is an event not a person. So learn from failure.

– Failure is like fertilizer, you can use it to grow.

– Instead of talking the whole time, ask people questions.

– Most awesome deals are learnable: sales, financial, etc.

– All success are combinations, recipes and formulas.

– Successful people fail over and over again whereas unsuccessful people only fail once or twice before they quit.

Big 3 for success:

1. Take responsibility.

2. Write goals and make plans, working on them every day.

3. Develop yourself to lifelong learning.

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

by Dr. John Gray

 

The book gives the analogy of people from Mars meeting the people from Venus – things are so different between the two groups and so they must learn about each other to live in harmony…

– Love can be great and can last when we will remember and respect each other’s differences.

– We think that our spouse should think like us, but that is not how it works.

– Men want to put on their Mr. fix-it hat the moment they hear their wife talk, but a woman does not want every situation to be fixed rather to be listened to.

– Men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed, and women feel motivated and empowered when they are listened to and cherished.

– Not to be needed is a slow death for a man.

– When a man is upset, all he wants to do is be alone; when a woman is upset she wants someone to be there so feel like she has support and someone cares for her. Many misunderstandings come from not understanding this difference.

– Blaming your partner never works, compassion does.

– Every man’s deepest fear is that he is not needed or not competent.

– A man’s silence is often hurtful to his wife because she misinterprets his silence. A woman is only silent which she does not have anything nice to say or because she does not really like the other person – so a man’s silence to a woman is interpreted that he does not love her and rejects her.

– Men feel frustrated by problems unless they are doing something to fix them but women just want the man to listen. If the woman will learn to show appreciation with her words, the man will not feel useless by just listening.

– When there are misunderstandings, remember that you and your spouse speak different languages, so try to understand your spouse.

– Men and women’s emotional needs are different, they usually give what they want from the other person and as a result become resentful. Both feel like they give and give and do not get back… therefore they become frustrated.

– Men primarily need trust, acceptance, appreciation, approval, admiration, and encouragement.

– Women primarily need understanding, respect, devotion, caring, validation, and reassurance.

– Three mistakes that man primarily make when it comes to women’s emotional needs:

1. He minimizes the importance of her feelings and needs.

2. He listens but then gets angry and blames her for making him upset.

3. After listening, he says nothing and just gets up and walks away – making her feel insecure because she did not receive what she needed.

– Communication is one of the most important elements in marriage, and arguments may be the most discouraging element in marriage.

– It takes two to argue, but it only takes one to stop an argument.

– The best way to stop an argument is to just stop talking, take a timeout and reflect on how you are talking to your spouse. Try to understand that you may not be giving your spouse what she needs. Then come back and in a loving and respectful way begin talking again.

– Many arguments start or continue because we do not feel like we receive love – we must remember that we are from different planets and speak different languages.

– Women need to be cared for and men need to be trusted. Women need validation, men need approval.

– Sometimes the best way to fix a problem is write a letter. When you write a letter, you can see your own feelings written down and change it – you are more thoughtful and cautious when writing it down because you want to explain well.

– When you want to feel better, write a love letter.

– If you want more, you have to ask for it. Most people have a problem asking. Not demanding but asking. Simply be direct.

– We cannot expect our spouse to always be loving, we also must have the gift of understanding.

– The process of learning does not mean just forgetting and forgiving, but remembering and applying.

– Give your spouse permission to make mistakes.

– You are a pioneer so understand that you’ll be lost at times and your spouse will as well be lost at times as well.

Maximum Achievement

by Brian Tracy

 

– It doesn’t matter if you are poor or rich, where you are from or the color of your skin, there’s a law of nature that teaches you will get out what you put in. Work hard, be smart and remember that what you put in is what you will get out.

– Success lies within you choosing to purposefully think on only what you want to be good at and do.

– Many people have an undisciplined life or unorganized thoughts instead of thinking on the one thing that they want in life.

– Your job in life is to be the conductor of your own symphony, harmonizing all your thoughts according to your choosing.

– If you wish to reap a harvest in a different area, then you must plant different seeds.

– What you get is not necessarily what you want, but it is what you expect.

– What happens to you many times is a reflection of what is happening inside of you.

– You’re only limitation is your desire, how bad do you want it.

– A wish is a goal without any energy behind it.

– If you look back in your life, you will realize that almost everything good that you have accomplished was preceded by difficulties in hard times.

– The character trait of successful people is that they look at setbacks as lessons instead of failures. Failure is not in their dictionary, they are learning experiences.

– Set time aside for solitude in your life. Time when you turn everything off and do nothing more than think or sit in silence.

– More people lose jobs by not knowing how to get along with people than they do for not knowing how to do something. Learn to be a people person.

– Praise people – specifically, immediately and often.

– Whatever you praise will likely be repeated.

– People will work harder for more money, but they will do almost anything to get praise.

– Everyone has accomplished something that is worthy of your admiration. Your job is to find it and point it out to that person.

Love and Passion

by Anthony Robbins

 

– The greatest relationships are those that are always growing.

– Do not base your life or relationship on the normal person, because most do not stay in a relationship for long and they’re not very happy.

– You have to learn to manage your own emotions. If you’re not right with yourself, you cannot be right with anyone else.

– A grateful person can be grateful anywhere no matter the context but the emotional, unstable person can be sad or hurt no matter how good or bad the context.

– If you really want to make your relationship work, start with you.

– What makes a relationship work is having things in common, but what makes a relationship passionate is having differences.

 

– If you want a intimate passionate relationship, work on the following things:

1. Heartfelt understanding. Feeling what someone else feels will melt their heart. What makes them upset, what makes them happy, what hurts them, etc.? Find out.

2. Give your spouse what they need. It’s not about you, it’s what they need. Once you understand your spouse, you have to give them what they need.

3. Create and build trust and respect. You can’t just respect them, you have to trust them. When you trust someone, you open up to them.

4. You have to reclaim the playfulness, pleasure and passion in the relationship.

5. Have the courage to be honest.

6. You have to align with your spouse. When you get to the point that you think you don’t have anything in common with your spouse, you are wrong. You just have to find it.

7. Be an example to your spouse, not just demanding or going first.

– The skills of a relationship are to select and to connect. Choosing the right person and then connecting with that person.

– Much of the happiness that you’re going to have in life will come from the person that you select as your spouse. – What kind of person do you need to be for the person that you love.

– No their chemistry and who they are and always find new ways to please them and make them happy.

– When there’s a problem, fix it right away. You may have to have time to walk away and breathe, but get back together and fix it before it becomes a monster.

– Discipline weighs ounces but regret weighs tons.

– What is preventing you to strengthen your relationship? Find out and make it your goal to fix things and put passion in your marriage.

Listful Thinking

by Paula Rizzo

 

– Making a list will help you become more organized, more efficient and use your time much better.

– List-full thinking can help you get more done, become more efficient, create good habits, help you do things better and enjoy them more because you are prepared, be more organized, less stressed and more balanced.

– Many successful and professional people keep a list of ideas, tasks and jobs.

– It’s all about preparation and thoughtfulness.

– One study says that by making a list, you are 30% more likely to complete the task. Whether a bigger task or just getting a milk from the store, making a list will make you more organized and efficient.

– Lists will take care of much anxiety – when you write it down, you don’t have to worry as much nor do you have to remember it.

– List making will boost your brain power – making a list will use parts of your brain that you many times do not use.

– List making will improve your focus – it works like a roadmap to get you where you need to go. Your list will help you stay focused as well as get more done throughout the day.

– List making will help you be more prepared – have a pen and paper on hand, because a list will help you to keep priorities and get things done. A checklist is a form to get things done.

– You don’t want to have to remember to remember something, so write it down.

– Make a pro and con list if you have to make a decision.

– Start with a life list – things that you would like to do or see before you die. From there you can go to things you want to do this year, etc.

– A gratitude list – things you’re thankful for at the specific moment and in general. Anything that’ll make you smile should be put on this list, silly or serious.

– Whether you write a grocery list, to do list, list of pros and cons or any other list, the fact that you make a list will do good to your body, soul and mind. It will reduce stress, increase effectivity, and give you a sense of accomplishment.

– Start making a list, write down anything that you think and then begin to prioritize it.

– Keep the list in different categories as to not confuse them as well as to pull them up whenever needed.

– Prioritize your list. Just because something is going to be easier doesn’t mean you want to do that first. Prioritize according to deadline and importance so that you can get it done and will not get off focus (by checking email, taking a phone call, thinking about doing something else, etc.).

– You have to find the right formula for you so that the list does not make you feel overwhelmed. The goal is to help you get more done, not get more stressed. The list can help you be organized and focused.

– Be realistic, you know yourself well enough and do not need to write down things that are unattainable. You also do not want to write down so many things that all you are doing is scratching things off to make you feel better.

– Make different list. Don’t keep every list (what you want to do in your life and what need to do every day) in the same spot. Make several lists for every project that you need to work on or accomplish.

– Learn to delegate or out-source things that you do not necessarily need to do.

– Learn to say no to some things, you do not have to do everything. It’s easy to say yes to a lot of things, but you do not need to make “yes” your default answer.

– Put time frames on your list, when you need to accomplish them.

– Make list of things far out – like buy turkey two weeks before Thanksgiving, etc.

– Make rewards for yourself – when you finish certain tasks, you’ll treat yourself to ice cream or whatever.

– Make reminders for yourself – it’s easy to forget what you’re supposed to do, but if you set reminders for yourself, it will prompt you to take action, look at the list and get it done. Use Post-it notes stuck in places to help remind you.

– Throughout the day, write down the things that you will have to do for the next day and have it finished before that night so you are prepared for the next day.

– When you have a task on your to-do list, you may need to break it down into steps, especially if it is something bigger. So you may need a sub to-do list in order to get things done.

– You can make paying taxes, grocery shopping, clothes shopping, cooking, medication, doctors visits, calendar events, job responsibilities, etc. so much easier if you’ll learn to write it down.

– Too many times do we leave the doctors office, or visiting someone, or a meeting and think, “oh I meant to ask them…”. If we would make list, we would remember.

– Making decisions can be mentally exhausting, but if we would plan before hand by making lists, we can avoid the exhaustion. For example: for one week straight lay out your clothes that you are going to wear the night before… you will not have to waste time or worry so much about deciding what you are going to wear in the morning.

– Make a list of things you need to talk about when you call the person or meet a person – this will keep you on focus and make sure you get accomplished what you needed.

– Make a list of activities and things you want to do when you go on a trip. Having a plan will help you know what you need to get prepared for and you can enjoy your time to the fullest.

Lectures To My Students

by Charles Spurgeon

 

This is not even a drop in the bucket of the good info he gave in this book.

 

– We will do our best when we are spiritually in order.

– No man does any good if he preaches a message to others that he first has not preached to himself.

– As does the workman, so does the worker go.

– Too many ministers forget to serve and represent God when they are out of the pulpit. True ministers are always ministers.

– We should be ministers powerful both in word and deed

– Do not make your sermons with so much information that it is not easy to eat. One nail nailed down well is better than 50 tacks barely sticking to the board.

– Keep the children’s attention while you are preaching – throw in a little story or parable to have even the children pay attention while you are preaching.

– You must attract attention to the hook. If the fish are not attracted to the hook, it is not the fish’s fault rather the fisherman’s fault.

– You should never go beyond 40 minutes in you’re preaching. If you cannot say what needs to be said in 40 minutes you should not say it.

– Preach on practical themes and matters that are needed to the listeners. Speaking is silver but pausing is gold. Say something worth hearing. Be close to the Spirit of God, your cup freshly filled from the presence of God so you can truly give to something your listeners.

– Ecc. 7:21 — have a blind eye and death ear

– He spoke frequently of Calvinism, his view of Calvinism must have been different from what is today called Calvinism. He pretty much disproved the idea that there is only Calvinism and Arminianism. He said that when you preach the Gospel come to the end of the sermon, you should “call sinners to repentance instead of being like some Calvinist to preach the Gospel and then sit down saying that it is only for the elect” – this was his example.

How to Write a Book this Weekend

By Vic Johnson

 

– You can have an interview with two experts on any subject and write a book about that.

– You can write a book in a reporters style.

– There are books on how-to, informational, and there are fictional books that are just interesting. You can write “how-to” books in an interesting way.

– Find a quiet spot where you will not be interrupted when you are writing a book.

– Pick the topic of the book. Make an outline of the book. Record yourself like you are interviewing yourself about the topic. After you have made the recording, you will have the main substance for your book. Of course it will need polishing, but your main information is in that recording.

– When you read something that you find interesting, put it into a file that you can later use when you want to write a book on that subject.

– You can add a quote at the beginning of the chapter and a to-do list at the end of the chapter.

– Use multiple proofreaders at the end of your book and find a good editor who will keep the book uniform and in your voice.

– You can dictate your book on audio program and then have it transcribed. You could have someone interview you if you prefer, just speak and recorded yourself or use recorded lessons that you have taught.

– Have a title page, copyright page, index page and in “about the author” page. Also do not forget to include your contact info, links to your blogs or websites, free offers, other books, etc.

– One of the most important things about a book is the title. Find the title. Another important thing about your book is the design, have a well designed cover.

How to Get Ahead in the World Today

By Dale Carnegie

 

– Decide — no one can really make you do things, only you will decide.

– Relationships — your success in life many times will depend on how you can get along with other people.

– Learn — you can learn from any man if you will only

– Habit — habit is nothing more than repetition. Here’s how to develop great habits and get ahead:

1. Take inventory of yourself — ask others what good habits you should have and what bad habits you should get rid of.

2. Start yourself off with all the enthusiasm that you have. Make your achievements your top priority and go at it with enthusiasm.

3. Grasp every opportunity as one to achieve your goals.

4. Don’t make excuses for yourself — if you want to form a new habit, don’t make excuses, just work at it.

5. Make definitive commitments — athletes make commitments whether difficult or not. Tell others about it and make yourself follow through.

 

– Enthusiasm will make up for many other areas.

– Determination — hard work will get you somewhere, just determine and begin doing it. Many don’t stick at something long enough to see it succeed. Make your mind up and you will get ahead almost before you know it.

– Fear and courage — fear exist mainly in your mind. Courage has more to do with mind than strength, number and other areas. Do what you are afraid to do and the fear of it will be conquered.

– According to a Carnegie study, 15% of one’s success depends on superior knowledge and 85% is due to superior personality.

– Poised — it’s surprising how many lack poise, but it is important to learn and obtain it. Just learn to think about others and not yourself. When you are in the presence of others, forget about yourself and what your interests and involve yourself totally in the other person.

– Organize your work — learn to avoid distractions. Focus on one thing at a time. Have a to-do list and work at accomplishing the list.

– Time — how you spend it will determine where you will be in 5 years from now. Some have more talents, better position, more money or better looking, but all of us have the same amount of time. We all have the same amount of time but do not all use it wisely. Your time is the most valuable thing you success, make it work for you.

– Become a friendlier person:

1. Don’t criticize, complain or condemn

2. Give honest, sincere appreciation

3. Arouse interest in other people.

4. Become genuinely interested in other people.

5. Smile

6. Remember that a person’s name is the sweetest sound in any language

7. Be a good listener

8. Talk in terms of the other person’s interest

9. Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely

– Be a leader:

1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation

2. Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly

3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person

4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders

5. Let the other person save face

6. Praise the slightest improvement and every improvement

7. Give the other person a fine reputation to work up to

8. Use encouragement

9. Make the other person happy about doing what you suggested

– How to handle worry

1. Get all the facts

2. Weigh all the facts before coming to a decision

3. Once a decision is reached, act on the decision

4. Write out and answer the following questions:

A. What is the problem?

B. What are the causes of the problem?

C. What are the solutions?

D. What is the best possible solution

5. Keep busy

6. Use the law of averages to outweigh the worry

7. Cooperate with the inevitable

8. Decide how much anxiety something is worth and do not give it any more

9. Don’t worry about the past