“The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” Titus 2:3-5
- Remember that the people where you will be serving will see you as their pastor’s wife!
- Great Responsibility as the pastor’s wife.
- You are responsible for the growth of the ladies in your church and ministry
- Teach them the spiritual lessons that they should learn
- Teach them how to live at home
- Teach them how to treat their husband and children
- Teach them how to serve others
- You need to help the ladies so as to protect your husband and his testimony. Genesis 20:16. “And unto Sarah he said, Behold, I have given thy brother a thousand pieces of silver: behold, he is to thee a covering of the eyes, unto all that are with thee, and with all other: thus she was reproved.”
- You are his veil or covering; his separation from other women.
- Keep an open relationship with your husband. No secrets, no locked doors
- Protect your family life and testimony
- You are responsible for the growth of the ladies in your church and ministry
- Great Responsibility as the pastor’s wife.
- Be sure to have a local church that is already training its folks. The college will be a natural outgrowth of your ministry as a Biblical pastor or missionary. Matthew 28:19-20, Ephesians 4, II Timothy 2:2,
- Have the knowledge and ability that the people can see, want, and imitate
- Where do I get teachers. Do not use other missionaries unless they are in agreement with you.
- Daytime Bible College versus Night time Bible Institute
- Explain credit hours
- Remember they need more training than someone who grew up in church
- You can have 1 hour classes or 2 hour classes
- If you give enough homework you can give credit for an extra hour on any class
- Allow independent study classes for those who really want it and are really willing to pay the price
- Class hours
- Monday night 6:30 to 9:00 for two hours of class and 1/2 of chapel
- Tuesday night 6:30 to 9:00 for two hours of class and 1/2 of chapel
- You can go longer or start earlier, remember that they can take one or class or all the classes
- What level of training do you want to have?
- What age group do you choose to teach?
- Requirements to enter Bible College
- Saved, baptized, active church member
- One year of growth
- Willingness to submit to the authority and leadership of the Bible College
- Be involved in a ministry in your church
It has been stated that life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to those things and their consequences. There is much truth to that in life and especially concerning Deputation. I am sure none of these are original! I learned or heard them from someone else but have been very much personalized over the last 16 months. I pray these will help you as you serve our Lord on Deputation.
D – Discern why you are on deputation. If the total focus of your time, travel and teaching is to get money you will be sorely disappointed when no love offering comes your way. You are given the opportunity to stir, motivate and encourage others about the greatest thing ever and that is world evangelism. Would you rather have a “good love offering” or have a young man surrender to the call to preach? If God can’t use you to minister to the lives of people on deputation, what makes you think that He would use you to minister to others once you get to the field?
E – Educate yourself as to your responsibility. Many missionaries complain of being on deputation for so long yet they have been in relatively few churches. The question is not how many months have you been on deputation but how many churches have you been in? I have met brothers who have been on deputation for a year and a half and have 30% of their support. That is not the problem, the problem is that they have only been in 75 different churches….that is only one new church a week! That is the problem! All of us will have to go to around 200 churches….you must decide how quickly you want to do that! Call, fill your schedule, write letters and learn how to present your ministry. Try to average 12+ meetings a month and once you are in a church present your work by God’s grace in such a way that they will never forget your name and the field you are going to. Again, learn how to do a calendar, make phone calls, schedule your meetings, present your work, carry yourself, talk to pastor’s, etc. God will do His part…will we do ours? Be careful not to blame God for something you were responsible for. Read More
Notes taken from preaching by Dawson Trotman: http://turret2.discipleshiplibrary.com/AA094.mp3
Multiplication was the 1st thing God told Adam and Eve – and to Noah and his family when got off the ark
- One can not multiply if no union (man with his wife) — and one can not spiritually multiply if do not know Christ
- One cannot multiply if sterile or a sickness – a Christian that does not have the spiritual union with Christ and gossips and lives in sin is sick spiritually and cannot reproduce. One is spiritually sterile when they do not have a daily walk with the Lord
- One can not multiply if lacks maturity (a kid can not b/c his body is not ready) – if Christian is a babe (I Cor. 2-3) and immature, they can not reproduce
There are Christians that have been saved for years and have never reproduced – I don’t want to know how many tracts you passed out, rather how many sheep you have.
So many people are ready to cross an ocean and learn a language, but do not have anyone they have won and living for Christ. And so many lay people are sitting and not producing. Could it be a lack of communion with the Lord? Could it be sin in your life? Could it be that you are still a babe and need to be taught again?
Teach someone to read and study God’s Word Read More
- You can’t treat them right, it is selfish to want to give them all the hard work (dealing with kids in the plane and with jet lag once arrived) when you are suppose to be the “hero” missionaries making the sacrifice to reach your country.
- It is “out of focus”—meaning that you land on the field and start running and working, this is what you have been dreaming of for years and you won’t be able to do that because you have to take care of your parents (no matter how tuff you are on your parents, they are always needy because they are foreigners in the country). How will they eat, sleep, get around when you can’t even do the basics yet?
- It shows mistrust towards the missionary because they have people who are able to watch your kids when you land on the field, but instead of trusting their judgement you are brining your parents.
- It shows a lack of authority and leadership, that you can’t tell your parents/in laws “No, now is not the best time to come, I have a job to do, you can come in a year.”
- It continues jet-lag and doesn’t help overcome it. If parents are stuck in a room all day watching your children while you are out and about buying the necessitates, then it is most likely the parents and the children will be sleeping on and off through the day. To adjust to jet lag you need to be awake all day and being “out and about” helps you and your children to be moving. If a maid is needed to watch the kids, at least she is fully awake to help the kids stay awake.
- Try to get 13 meetings a month and do not be satisfied until you do.
- Since it is difficult to impossible to get 13 meetings or churches per month then when you do not have a meeting just drop in to new churches or churches where you have already been. Try to develop a friendship with different pastors and cultivate future opportunities to get support. While dropping in be sure to shake hands, wear your Macedonia pin, and give out prayer cards like candy. Then send a letter thanking the pastor for his kindness in allowing you to drop in to his service. Of course you are going to send an information sheet about yourself and your ministry. Always have your calendar handy and ask for a meeting if given the chance.
- Send out a monthly newsletter, prayer letter. The more you get your name and information out there the more they will know who you are and have interest in you. Be very positive in your prayer letter.
- I send out my prayer letter in bulk with an address correction on it. That way I know if it is getting to them or not. I do not drop names from my list. Send your information. You never know when God may touch someone’s heart to take you on.
- Be careful to send out very positive confirmation and thank you letters. Always include information about the country where you are going and the need. Be sure to have a good information sheet about yourself to send out along with your confirmation letter.
- Make phone calls every day even if you spend more than $300 per month on the phone. You want to book as many meetings as you can. Book for the next 2 or 3 years. You can always cancel if you get your support and have to go to the field.
- Always look for new names. Ask every missionary you see. Ask your pastor and pastor friends. Get names and use them.
- Be careful to work at least 8 hours a day 5 or 6 days a week. Being a missionary ought not take less time a week than your secular job did. If you gave 40 or 50 hours a week to the world how much more should you give to God.
- More important than all the secular, carnal things that you do will be your walk with God. After all it is God who gives us our support. Be sure to pray each day. Get in the Word. Ask God to open doors. Look to Him and not to methods etc.
- Be careful to keep a good attitude about your work, calling, support, love offerings, pastors etc. God is watching your attitude. Often times deputation is a time when God molds a man. Don’t do anything to hinder what God wants to do in your life.
If you think it will take 3 years and plan and work that way it just may take 4 years. Why not set goals that are higher than that. Shoot for 1 year. If you can’t get it in 1 then go for 2 but don’t drag your feet and don’t waste time. Don’t make excuses. It would be better to try and fail than not to try at all. Work like you would have to to make it in 1 year and you will still get there quicker than if you work like it might take 2 or 3.
Basically you need to get in around 200 churches and drive over 100,000 miles to get to the field. How long you drag it out is up to you.
I found a list of the following qualifications for missionaries that I thought you might like to consider. We may not agree with everyone but it would do us well to consider each of these and make sure we are ready for the mission field.
Maybe the most important aspect of our work as missionaries outside of the strictly spiritual realm is that of our relationship with nationals. So many good men and women go to the field and do not accomplish what they could even though they are very well trained and prepared for the work. It is not enough to have a good education or to be a spiritual man of God. You must also know how to relate to people. You are the visitor to their country. You must learn to think in terms of how they view things and not what you like or want.
Below you will find the counsel given by Emilio A. Núñez C. and a group of his former students at the Central American Theological Seminary in Guatemala. I do not necessarily agree with everyone but since they were each stated by nationals I believe that they deserve your careful consideration.
SUGGESTIONS FOR NEW MISSIONARIES AND THEIR ADAPTATION TO LATIN AMERICA
- Remove from your head your great American ideas of how things should be done here.
- Do not think you have come to work with uncivilized people.
- Do not teach so much theory, but practice your teaching in your life. Show us how it works in
real life as you model the truth.
- Read about Latin America and my country. Find out who our best authors are.
- Have more contact with the people, not only in the churches but in your social life.
- Live at an adequate level, neither too high above us nor too low below us. Adapt your life-style to the people with whom you work.
- Do not talk in English when there are people present who do not understand it. This is rude on your part, and we tend to suspect that you are talking about us.
- Do not impose your American customs on us or belittle ours. Do not try to make us into little North Americans.
- Do something to meet the social needs of our people, whether it be literacy, relief, or development projects.
- Do not feel that you are superior to me. We can sense pride even in small amounts. You came to serve in humility, and it is best that you not compare cultures, trying to prove yours is better.
- Show love to people as you do in your country, and then learn how we do it here.
- Learn our language well: our sayings and proverbs, our youth slang if appropriate, our subjunctive, our regional and national accents.
- Try to learn our language so well that you speak without a foreign accent.
- Read about our continental and national heroes: Bolivar, Miranda, Juárez, San Martín, and others.
- Be willing to accept our suggestions. That may hurt, but we want to help. You have to accept them with humility. Learn the meaning of Proverbs 27:6 and 17.
Proverbs 27:6 Faithful [are] the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy [are]deceitful.
Proverbs 27:17 Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.
- Watch the way you speak to us. We are very sensitive to the tone of voice and the choice of words. We are touchy people.
- Be more diplomatic in your relationships with us. Do not greet us as you gringos greet each other. You seem too cold and distant. Ask about our families and our personal lives.
- Learn to touch us appropriately. You people seem very cold in human relations. There is noting like a great abrazo.
- See yourself as a co-equal with us, neither higher nor lower.
- Develop serious and deep friends from among us, people with whom you can be transparent and vulnerable. This will take time and is costly. But you can ask them about the intimate things, about ideas and other topics., This step is risky, for the closer you get to us the more unhappy you might make your missionary colleagues.
- Love without talking about it. Just show it.
- Show that you lovingly expect much from us with coming across as a paternalistic chief.
- Make disciples among us leaving a human and reproducible legacy when you leave.
- Eat and like our food, not just Pizza Hut and McDonald’s. We also like to know what you eat
at home as a family.
- Learn to dress like Latins, using our styles and fabrics.
- Be more flexible in terms of time., Slow down! Why are you always in a hurry, looking at your watch? There is more to life than time.
- Learn and appreciate our music and instruments, both folk and classical.
- Drop the terms pounds and miles, and then learn to give weights and distances in kilos and kilometers.
- Struggle honestly with our struggles: social, historical, cultural, church, and Christian life. Do not just give us capitalistic answers, and do not reduce societal problems to simplistic spiritual solutions.
- Learn to read the Bible from our perspective and culture. You will have to work at this, but it is worth it. Note how much of the Bible was written to people who lived in
violence, injustice, and political uncertainty.
- Remember that we think differently from the way you do, and our problem-solving is different from yours. Learn how we do it.
- Come and stay with us for a long time. Short terms are shortcuts many times.
- At the same time, be bold enough to examine whether or not you should stay in Latin America as a missionary. Perhaps some of you should return home, particularly if you cannot adjust here, or do not know why you came, or are having serious family problems, or cannot work with us.