Author: Jeffrey Bush

13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do

by Amy Morin

 

Mentally strong people have healthy habits.

Bad habits are like unwanted weights, they will hold you down and frustrate you, not letting you move forward.

Developing your mental strength is about controlling your emotions, behaviors and thoughts.

1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves Self-pity is self-destructive.

People to focus on the problem and disability instead of what can be accomplished in life even though there was an accident, those are the ones that move forward. Dwelling on the disability will run you.

Do you stay home from social activities just to dwell on your own problems? Do you think no one can understand you and your problems? Do you think about how everyone else is blessed? Do you think that the world is out to get you?

Pity is easy to do and reactionary. Feeling sorry for yourself self-destructive. Quit feeling sorry for yourself

A. Do a random act of kindness

Think or do something for others, it’s hard to absorb Eddie when you are helping others.

B. Do something active.

If you choose to look at the negative side of it in any situation, it will bring self-pity. If you choose to find a Silverlining in any situation, you will become thankful. There is a silver lining in every situation.

C. Exchange self-pity into gratitude.

• Keep a gratitude journal. Write down all the little things.

• Say what you are grateful for.

• Ask others what they are grateful for. Asking others with their grateful for a spark areas in your mind for what you should be grateful for.

• Teach your children to be grateful.

Focus on your blessings are not on your burdens.

Focusing on your blessings mental health, it also improves your physical health. Gratitude leads to positive emotions. People who are grateful seem to be happier, get sick less and feel better.

Grateful people usually forgive people more than those that are negative

2. They Don’t Give Away Their Power

When we do not forget, you’re giving our power over to those who have hurt us. Giving other people power over how you feel thank behave takes away your mental strength.

Set healthy physical and emotional boundaries for yourself.

You have the power to choose your own direction in life.

You do not have to feel the sense of being the victim.

Who are you devoting all of your time and energy to, are they worth receiving it? When you think about someone, how big or two or make you angry, you are giving them Lord mental strength, power it emotions.

A. Get your mind off of what you’re thinking about when you’re upset.

B. Distract yourself by going on a walk or doing something else.

C. Rephrase the words that you use, did not say they made you mad or you have to do something.

D. Retain your opinion. When you are criticized someone put you down, remember who you are and do not let it change you. E. Remember where the source of criticism came from.

One persons opinion of you does not make it true. Was there any truth in what they said, anything that should be changed about you? What’s what they said based on a one-time experience when you did not perform the best? Harboring bitterness only steals from you and give the other person power.

Choosing to forgive will allow you to retain your power.

Medically, choosing to forgive let you live longer. Choosing to forgive her to recover quicker, heal faster.

3. They Don’t Shy Away from Change A. All or nothing change.

B. Have it change – changing old habits or good habits. C. Behavioral change –

Change requires doing something different.

Shying away from change will not help anything. The longer we wait, the harder it gets. Create a list of why the change is needed and what it will do as a result.

Create a goal what you want to change the next 30 days.

I didn’t buy steps for the change and obstacles that stand in your wedding planning ahead will help you.

Keep yourself accountable by writing it down or sharing it with others.

Study of the behavior that you want to if you want to be more outgoing or more healthy., And study people about that.

4. They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control

It feels good to have control of something, but we cannot control all things.

Trying to control everything cause you not to enjoy what you have around you.

Trying to control things as a cover-up for your anxiety but it will backfire.

Trying to control everything waste the time and the energy.

Being a control freak damages.

You cannot control every situation i’m not the only thing that you can control is your behavior and your attitude.

By focusing on what you can control instead of can’t control, you will worry less. Practice acceptance. You cannot control the traffic so you might as well enjoy Music instead of punching the steering wheel and yelling.

Even though you do not like the situation you are in, you can choose to accept it. Increased happiness happens when people realize I cannot control every aspect of their lives.

You will have less stress when you realize you cannot control every situation.

You up new opportunities when you quit trying to control everything.

You will have better relationships be able to trust others when you quit trying to control everything.

You will have more success when you quit trying to control everything. Research shows that when you’re so focused on success or any other area, you try to control it and never reach the success that you are aiming for.

5. They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone

People pleasers usually damage relationships that you can’t please everyone. People pleasers usually lose sight of their values

Just because it pleases everyone does not make it right.

Worrying about what everyone else thinks it’s a waste of time. You cannot change what they think anyways so don’t waste time worrying about it.

You can’t please everyone – it is a possible that every person will be pleased with what you do.

People pleasers are often manipulated because people play on their emotions.

When Quit worrying about pleasing others who have more time and energy to direct towards the thing like it want.

6. They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks

We all take face challenges in our lives (physical, emotional, mental, financial)., But unless we take those risks we will never be able to find out what can happen. A lack knowledge of how to calculate the risks leads to fear.

You don’t get to be extraordinary without taking risks.

If we don’t take risks, we are off to choosing between ordinary or extraordinary life.

Base your risks more on facts and not feelings.

What are the potential cost for this risk?

What are the potential benefits for this risk?

What is the worst case scenario oh if the risk went bad?

Taking calculated risks will give you insight in areas and teach you more.

Success will not find you, you have to pursue it.

7. They Don’t Dwell on the Past

You can’t change the past

When something bad happens, don’t keep replaying it in your mind. Staying stuck in the past is not healthy nor helpful.

Dwelling on the past will distract you from living and working in the present.

You’ll miss out on new opportunities and living things today if you’re dwelling on the past.

Dwelling on the past can lead to depression.

Going on the past can make you exaggerate of how things were perfect back then and are not as good now.

You can learn from the past so it just beating yourself up over the past.

Steps goals for the future. It is impossible to dwell on past if you’re making goals about future.

Decide to think about something else when you began falling on the past. Make peace with the past:

• Give yourself a mission to move forward.

• Recognize the toll of dwelling on the past versus living in the present.

• Practice forgiveness.

• Change activities so that you’re mine does not stay dwelling on the past.

If you spend all of the time looking in the rearview mirror, you will never be able to look out of the windshield.

8. They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over

When we deny our mistakes, you’re more likely to repeat them in the future.

Would you make the same mistakes over and over about your tire yourself out nowhere

– just like a dog chasing its tail.

You’ll never be able to solve the problem if you continue repeating the problem over and over.

Identify clear strategies to avoid making the same mistake.

Create a plan to not repeat the mistakes.

Find a way to hold yourself accountable.

Practice self-discipline. It is not a matter if some out so I’ll just plan something not I’ll buy everyone does, it’s just a matter of practicing it. Learning from your mistakes will make you stronger.

Mentally strong people will share their mistakes with others so that they don’t make them.

9. They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success

Resentment is like drinking or bills another person – Nelson Mandela.

It’s easy to resent others when you don’t even know what what yourself. Resentment anytime just because your knees.

A resentment many times comes from a lack of understanding others. We think that their life is perfect or that they never have problems.

You will never enjoy what you have if you are always thinking about what others have.

You will never be satisfied because you’re always looking to what others up.

You will never grow up or get better yourself – when you’re always looking to others, you’re not focusing on what you have or what you’re doing therefore you cannot get better at it.

Never enjoy your relationship with others if you’re secretly holding grudges.

• Avoid comparing yourself to others.

• Get to know people – if you get to know someone, it is very likely that you will not think as bad about them.

• Quit magnifying other people Straits – resentment many times come from magnifying the strengths of others.

• Avoid deciding what is fair for you and everyone else

When you’re tempted to what other people success, remember your own definition of success.

Don’t compare yourself to everyone around you.

Learn to cooperate with others cannot compete with them.

If you focus on your own goals, you don’t have to worry about other people success.

10. They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure

Although some people don’t give up with failure and that gives them the desire to keep going, maybe just give up.

Failure can be a wonderful experience if you will continue moving forward afterwards.

Those who give up after failing the first time ever accomplish much.

Grit is that better detector and IQ – your IQ does not mean you’ll be successful, grit usually does.

By thinking about what you can learn through the process, failure will only be part of the process and not devastating.

Failure is part of the process of success.

You can learn from failure, you can benefit from it and it will make you a better person.

Face your fear of failure.

If you get used to failing, it is not that scary, especially if you can do it over and over again and become better because of it.

Bouncing back after failure would make you successful.

Failure can build character as well as identify strengths that you would never found without the failure.

Don’t allow yourself to think that failure is worse than it really is.

11. They Don’t Fear Alone Time

The thought of spending time alone scares people about they don’t want it.

Most have background music on, they never want to be alone, waste of time and feel it is unproductive.

People who feel like they must accomplish something all the time try to avoid alone time. Some people feel guilty about it. But alone time is needed.

Loneliness is a feeling that no one is with you, but solitude is a choice to be alone to think and reflect.

Solitude can increase productivity.

Spending alone time can spark creativity.

Solitude provides restoration.

Although it is not easy to stop and take time for yourself, there are great group questions for those who do not do it.

Stopping for time to walk, garden, etc. will actually help you not hurt you.

You must schedule solitude in a long time just like you to schedule other things.

Trying to fall asleep or drown yourself with background noise is not healthy.

Take time to stop and reflect on your goals or write in journal.

Turn off technology and take some some time by taking a date alone.

It is not healthy trying to be so busy that we only focus on productivity or what we accomplish. Taking time to journal is not a waste. Background music every moment is not healthy.

12. They Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything

Thinking that you deserve things could be just as detrimental as that you are superior.

Overindulging parenting will hurt your child to grow up.

We live in a social media world tells us we deserve everything.

We often say that some someone has something better after we are trying to help them, but the world does not work that way. The world owes us nothing. Everyone in this world has problems, you’re not the only one.

You’re different from everyone else, but that does not make you better or more deserving than everyone else.

Although you cannot control all the situations, you can control your feelings and reactions.

Focus on your efforts and set up your importance.

Become a team player, see how you can make other people better instead of thinking about yourself.

Acknowledge your flaws and weaknesses, everyone has them. Do not have a inflated self perception.

Learn to receive correction and criticism in the right way, that will make people like or dislike you.

Practice humility often.

When you quit trying to show off, you can improve your job performance.

Accept what the world get you without complaining that you deserve or want something better.

Give back to others in need.

Quit taking only your own feelings and perspectives.

13. They Don’t Expect Immediate Results

We must have an understanding that success does not happen overnight.

Mentally strong people realize that it takes time, I think it’s instant.

One in 10 Americans take anti-depression pills at any start taking them before they are medically prescribed.

we live in a world that we have everything now – you don’t have to wait for a letter to arrive because you can send email, you don’t have to watch commercials because we have movies on demand, order online, etc.

Personal changes and people to not move as fast as technology.

Unrealistic expectations for it’s a change will only set you up to fail.

We give up on our goals wait to seven. We start to exercise and see no change so we quit, but the body is working up to a progress of change. Most quit New Year’s resolutions wait too soon.

Wanting fast change anytime causes people to do illegal things: steroids, cheating, lying, etc.

When you want the cake to bake faster, you open up the oven door but as a result that he goes out. And when you are in a hurry in life, you’re rushing things that you lose momentum.

Commit for the long haul.

Create realistic expectations.

Recognize that progress is not always obvious.

Do you know if restorations of the healthy manner – some days you feel like giving up.

Keep your eye on the end goal in mind.

Delay self gratification.

If you want to change the way you feel, you have to change the way you think.

“Go ye” Means You

by Norman Lewis

•God could have sent angels to evangelize the world. But He did not. He might have broadcast the message from heaven. But He did not. He might have utilized a heavenly TV. But He did not. God chose to send men, men saved from sin, to win other sinners.

•Every Christian must fit into God’s plan or miss life‘s meaning.

•Matthew 28:19–20 uses the word “teach” and “teaching.”  “Teach” deals with evangelization and “teaching” deals with edification.

On with the message, on with the light.

On to the regions still shrouded in night,

On to the nations that never have heard,

On with the life-giving, soul-saving Word.

•It is wonderful to work for God. It is even better to know we are working with God in the task of His choice.

•Christians should be identified with both the person and purpose of Christ.

Up From Slavery

By Booker T. Washington

Being of his Race was Better than having all Served to Him

He realized that he could do more because of his upbringing than those who were raised having all served to them.

He did not have a store hat like the other boys rather a home made hat – but he realized later that many of those who had a store bought hat were later in prison and he was still doing right.

He had Caracter

When saw something thrown down, wanted to pick it up

Kept his “only” clothes clean and nice

He would rather do the work than talk about it in speeches

Made his Library

Took a simple box and used it as his first shelf and began placing his books there.

Valued the books he had

His Attitude Took Him Forward

Was not bitter because of his upbringing, race, or how was treated

Did not complain about food he had to eat, hard work, how was treated, etc

His attitude took him far in life – as ours will

He Wanted to Learn with All he had in Him

He learned not only from books rather from studying men

He learned in every area of life

He learned from everybody (even when they treated him harshly) and always strived to do his best

Every obstacle was an opportunity to learn from and do better in life as a result

No Obstacle Prevented Him

He said that he could do as well as anyone if he only had the chance

Hard work, race, etc never was too big of an obstacle for him.

He went forward because he did not allow the obstacles to stop him.

He Worked so Well that he Could not be Replaced

His thought was to work so hard that no one could replace him

He did not do a half job – even though no one was watching him

He later was promoted in many areas because of his principle to be replaced.

His Principle was that Those that are the Happiest are Those that Work with Others

It did not bother him that he worked for someone, frankly it made him happy

It was apparent in his life that he did not want to be the one in charge, he was content working for others

He was happy in assisting others

He Understood the Value and use of the Bible

He said that he tried to read one chapter a day of the Bible

He knew Bible stories and it is obvious that many of his principles were Bible principles.

I Owe what I have to …

He was grateful to others and named people who tuaght him

He recognized and gave credit to others

Did not Quit when Reduced to a Lower Position

When he was reduced to a lower position, he did not quit, rather determined to know “how” and was soon replaced to his position

He never quit – over and over he continued and always advanced because of this attitude and dedication

He wanted to Teach them More than Book Learning – he wanted to Teach them “How to Do”

How to do certain things instead of mere books alone.

While some had book knowledge, many did no know the “how to do” of life.

So that they could return to their homes and teach the other people where they came from.

Saw a Sweet Spirit in his Wife and not Only Looks

He did not marry because his wife was pretty, although I’m sure he was, but because of the character of his wife.

He talks more about the love his wife had for the people and her work rather than how she was a “knock-out” when he met her.

He said she was devoted to the work of the school and completely one with him in both thought and ambition

Because of both him and his wife having high character and love, they made a great team and went forward in life.

Taught his People to Love Others

His students gave food, coats, etc to others

The students began to love others – both white people and colored

He Wanted the Students to Build

Others thought it was a bad idea, but that did not discourage him

Later the students loved and protected “their” building because they were the ones who built it

They failed in how to make bricks, but he sold of his own possesion to continue although others were against it again, but later they became very good in brick making

Later his students left and became very professional in making bricks and building – they now supply neighbors and others with their supplies.

The Individual who can Do something that the World wants Done, will Make his Way in the End Regardless of his Race

His students became successful for what they learned

It became known that anyone that went to his school would learn how to do work – the value of industrial education

Order can be Brought out of Caos

If you stick to it, order can be brought out of caos

He said he was glad that he started out in a basement, on a foundation made by them instead of having everything already done.

He said they were glad that they started off like they did and grew little by little the way they did

When he Arrived to Tuskegee he Decided to Stay

He did not talk bad about the place – even when away from it

He decided he would like it and stand up for it

Praise Rather than Complain would do More

He found out that if he would praise others instead of find the negative areas in them, he could get more done.

He found the good in others

Dangerous Calling

By Paul Tripp

 

We get too comfortable where we are, we become apathetic, we minister to people but yet do not seek to be ministered to… therefore we are in a dangerous area in life and ministry.

Most pastors are angry, have marriage problems, have personal struggles and a much more.

Although we can see other people’s problems, we become blind to our own.

Our ministries are fueled by our personal devotion to the Lord.

It is my worship that can lead to other people worshiping. It is my sense of need to my Savior that can lead other people to fill their sense of need for the Savior. It is my joy and identity in Christ that can help others find theirs.

If I am not looking for joy in the Gospel, I will try to fill it in another gospel.

If my relationship is not right vertically, I will start seeking out things that can fill me horizontally.

We must look to God. We must listen to others. We must ignore the urge to isolate ourselves.

Having fantasies of doing something else or working in another ministry will lead to discontentment and bring on very big problems.

Just as a man who takes care of roses but never takes the time to enjoy them, so is a person that is so busy in the ministry but never stops and enjoys what is around him – how God is blessing, the good things going on.

We are fooled when we think that spiritual maturity is simply knowing more… It is actually applying more, not just knowing more.

Because of our vast knowledge of the Word, we go to her desk to get new sermons, but few times do we open it to really learn.

Knowing so much Scripture brings us to a knowledge/understanding, but very few times brings us to our knees.

Self-righteous people tend to be critical.

Our knowledge makes us think so much that we preach all these rules for people… but if it’s about rules, then Jesus came, died and rose again in vain.

We must not judge ourselves or any pastor in the ministry by the exterior, we must dig deep and find out if he pastors his own home, how his walk with the Lord is, if he is critical and judgmental, if he is loving, etc.

Be careful how we define successful ministry – if we think that a graduate with multiple diplomas will be successful, we could be totally wrong.

Maturity is about a relationship with God.

Sin blinds 10 out of 10 people.

Spiritual blindness is different than physical blindness – spiritual blindness tricks the person by thinking he/she can really see.

Spiritual blindness is so deceptive that we literally need daily intervention. We must establish relationships that can confront us. Be open and except criticism.

A pastor’s wife needs help, mentoring and accountability as well.

Do not let the busyness of ministry cause your marriage to fail.

You should come to the point where you know that you need other people in your life.

You cannot think that your life is fine just because ministry appears good. You cannot be deceived that marriage is well just because your ministry looks good.

It is very hard for a pastor to stay accountable and admit when he is wrong or in sin.

Many that have opened up and admitted struggles or sin failure have been hurt and decide to never open up or tell people their problems again. Most pastors live in isolation and silence, thinking this is the most secure and best way – but this is false!

Why are there so many pastors who struggle in their families? Why are there so many pastors that have problems with other staff members? Why is there so much depression amongst pastors? Why are there so many difficulties in the lives of ministers? The problems are personal; it is a war in the heart.

Problems are so great because there is a war in the heart – pride, wanting to be something, wanting to see results and desiring to measure up.

We preach to so many other people and many times forget to preach to our own selves.

We must fight to keep the gospel first.

So, in the war, are we good soldiers?

We are made to worship, but we must remember that worship is not an activity rather an identity.

What do our words and actions reveal that our priorities are?

God is our refuge and strength – but many pastors run to substance, sex, activities, friends, and other things instead of running to God when they have problems.

There’s a great danger of losing the awe and forgetting what God has done. If you can’t get your excitement back, maybe you are doing what you should not be doing.

Are we so busy feeding others that we don’t have time to feed ourselves? We cannot lead others to do what we ourselves are not doing.

We must be careful that our Christianity does not become a system of what we do instead of a relationship.

I will never measure up; Christ never saved me because of who I am or what I can do. I must remember to look and depend on Christ.

We have to learn to not look for other people’s approval, we minister to serve our Savior.

We must put ourselves under Biblical council. Sadly most pastors do not have a pastor, meaning that no one tells them when they are wrong, calls them out when prideful, helps them grow, etc.

Finding your Element

By Ken Robinson and Lou Aronica

 

Do you know where your element is? Do you know how to find it?

Being in your element into you love what you do, not just that you’re good at it.

What are you good at?

What do you enjoy doing?

What are you passionate about?

Happiness is a feeling, or genetic.

Attitude the allowing you to find or not find your element.

Here to Serve,

Jeffrey Bush

Through My Eyes

Tim Tebow

 

Proverbs 20:7 – let another man praise you and not your own lips.

Do everything for God’s glory. Work hard. Don’t settle for doing something halfway.

He was homeschooled. Had a very clear testimony.

Worked out and was very self disciplined.

Had many Bible verses memorized.

He was a leader – encouraged the guys on his team, stood on the steps when everybody got off the bus to give them a hug & encouraging words.

Even as a senior in college, he said he would probably end up one day working in ministry.

Stated publicly that he was waiting for marriage to have sex. I’m sure he had plenty of temptations and opportunities, but he wanted to get married and respects purity.

Not ashamed to talk about Jesus – to his coach, to his team members, on TV, etc.

Believes that God gave him a platform for the Lord.

He said one could not live life if he listens to the chatter of everyone. There’s only one voice that really matters and that is what he wants to listen to, God.

He says he does not know what his future holds but does know who holds his future.

Think and Grow Rich

By Napoleon Hill.

 

Success usually comes right close to the time of failure and sadly many people quit when it gets tough.

Success will come to them that are successful conscious of failure will come to them that are of failure conscious.

You have to know what you want, and then be willing to go after it.

You are the master of your fate and control your soul.

Our brains become magnetized to what we think about the most.

And those magnets attract thoughts, people and things that will make us to what we must think about.

No one has become rich without hoping, wishing, dreaming and planning on it before hand.

No one is ever defeated until they except defeat as an attitude.

Faith mixed with thought will make things happen.

No one is doomed to bad luck. Too many people believe themselves doomed to poverty or failure, but they are the creators of this misfortune. Their subconscious minds have played into reality. Your faith can override your subconscious mind by believing something.

Faith is a state of mind that can be induced by subconscious thinking.

Faith is the base of all miracles. Faith is the base of thinking rich. Faith is the only antidote for failure.

It is a fact that what happens to a person is what they repeat in their mind over and over.

Everyman is what he is because of the thoughts that he permits to occupy his mind.

Your greatest weakness may be the lack of self-confidence.

You must realize that your thoughts will eventually become actions that eventually become a reality.

If you would think for 30 minutes a day upon the person you would like to become than your thoughts will create a clear mental picture that will later become a reality.

You can cause others to believe in you because you believe in yourself.

The law of autosuggestion is that your subconscious mind will pick you up and take you further or drag you down and stop you as a result of what you think.

If you think you are busy than you are. If you think you cannot succeed than you will not. If you think you will lose than you probably will. Success begins with someone’s will to believe it.

If you think you are outclassed, than you are. You have to think high to rise.

The man who wins is the man who thinks he can.

What genius lies asleep in your brain?

Failure cannot overcome persistence.

Inconsistency and procrastination are brothers.

It’s one thing to want more but it is something else to be worth more – we should work at being worth more.

Learn to make decisions quickly and change them slowly.

Keep your mouth closed and your ears open.

Rich Dad Poor Dad

By Robert T. Kiyosaki

 

The poor says I can’t afford it while the to-be-Rich says why can’t I afford it. One is a statement the other is a question.

Learn to use your mind; it is the greatest computer that exists.

There are different effects on the thoughts you have in life. You really do shape your life through your thoughts.

You have to listen to what advice you’re going to feed your mind. You have to choose what thoughts you’re going to think.

The rich do not work for money.

It’s easier to work for money than your money for you.

If money is the big problem than why do people not change when they get more of it?

Fear and greed are the emotions that many have when it comes to money. Fear that they will not have enough and cannot pay bills. Once they get money they become greedy and want more.

Use your brain. Don’t work for money or live waiting for your next paycheck.

Learn a little about everything.

The next step is to learn leadership. Most everything you do will concern working with people.

There are liabilities and assets – if money does not stay with you, it is a liability and not an asset.

Do not just get a job and earn money, learn to make money work for you.

There are many talented people, but most do not know how to sell. You must be a salesman at whatever you do.