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Is Your All on the Altar

by Jeffrey Bush 

Is your all on the altar 

A sacrifice laid?

Or are you living for self,

A life that will soon fade?

Is your all on the altar 

A sacrifice laid?

Will you surrender everything to God,

Or will your life be a foolish charade?

Is your all on the altar 

A sacrifice laid?

Or is family and possessions your priority?

Does surrendering to God make you afraid?

Is your all on the altar 

A sacrifice laid?

Is Christ truly your everything?

Or is the temporal your persuade?

Is your all on the altar 

A sacrifice laid?

What’s stopping you from going all in?

What are you not willing to trade?

May your all on the altar 

A sacrifice be laid.

Because a life fully consumed for Jesus,

Is the purpose for which you were made.

21 Questions to Determine Your Commitment to God

by Jeffrey Bush — 9-30-2020

  1. Can you say Father not my will but Thine be done? (Your plans, future, dreams, desires and all)
  2. Can you say you count all as loss to know Him? 
  3. Can you say you submit yourself to His plan for your life?
  4. Can you say you know and believe there is a real and literal hell? 
  5. Can you say you know and believe people are lost?
  6. Can you say you truly know God wants to use you?
  7. Can you say your life belongs wholly to God?
  8. Can you say you know and believe Christ is returning soon?
  9. Can you say you know your life has a purpose and mission set by God?
  10. Can you say you know now is the best time for God to use you?
  11. Can you say your life is worthy of others imitating? 
  12. Can you say you are putting God first or are their other things holding that spot?
  13. Can you say you are sold out and fully committed to whatever God wants? 
  14. Can you say you know it’s your reasonable service to serve God?
  15. Can you say you are growing in your life instead of just maintaining? 
  16. Can you say you love God or are you more cold or lukewarm? 
  17. Can you say your life is a light in this dark world? 
  18. Can you say you realize you are made to be an ambassador Christ? 
  19. Can you say you’re living and acting like a servant for God? 
  20. Can you say you will be the faithful salt, light, and witness for God right now? 
  21. Can you say you are consumed with God?

Questions for Missionary Panel

As used at Vision Baptist Church in Alpharetta, GA

The following list is packed full of great questions to choose and use during your missions conference or when missionaries are visiting. It is exciting to have a missionary visit your church, but a pre-thought list of questions will maximize everyone’s time. Make your preparations from the list below:

  1. Why do you feel that what you do is so important?
  2. Tell a story of how Jesus worked in a man’s life in your ministry
  3. How do you reach men in your country?
  4. What is life like for the average man in your church?
  5. What are your biggest challenges in your personal, relational, spiritual, and ministerial life?
  6. How has being in full time ministry affected your family relationships and marriage?
  7. How has God been speaking to you lately?
  8. Share something you have learned from the Lord in the past few months
  9. What is something you are asking God for?
  10. Do you feel like your children are blessed or suffering as you serve as a missionary? Please explain
  11. Are there safety issues where you live?
  12. What do you most enjoy in your life as a missionary?
  13. What is the most difficult part of your life and ministry?
  14. If you could talk honestly and openly to your supporters what would you say?
  15. What is going on in your heart and mind as you prepare to go back to your ministry? What excites you and what are you dreading?
  16. What are the biggest adjustments and challenges you have to make living in on your field?
  17. How do people in your country feel about the USA? 
  18. What are some cultural differences or barriers you have had to overcome?
  19. What is the best part about being a missionary?
  20. What does a typical week look like?
  21. What are your goals for the future?
  22. Tell us a funny story about something that has happened to you as a missionary 
  23. What are your hobbies or relaxing activities?
  24. Where is your favorite place to go in your country?
  25. How is church planting and leader training progressing in your country?

Time Management

Time Management

by Brian Tracy

 

– How you manage your time will determine your success or failure in business and other areas of life.

– Time is something that when it is used can never be recovered.

– Time is something that we all have, but depending on how we use it will allow us to get more accomplished or not.

– Not using time well will causes great stress. But when we use time well, we will feel better about life, get more sleep, be less stressed and get more done.

 

– The four D’s of successful time management.

1. Desire – desire to change your lifestyle and habits and to begin managing your time well

2. Decisiveness – you must decide that you will use good time management if you want to accomplish more in and with your life.

3. Determination – you must persist in the face of all temptations that will distract and rob you from getting things done.

4. Discipline – you must discipline yourself in life to manage your time well. Discipline yourself to do what you know you should do whether you feel like it or not.

 

– Learn to form good habits and let those habits form you.

– The loss of control. This law says that you feel good about yourself or not depending on if you are in control of your time and life.

– You have to know your priority if you’re going to manage your time well.

– Review your plans daily and consistently.

– Making a checklist and knowing what needs to be done will give you superior thinking.

– Every 1 minute you use to plan out a list of what needs to be done is a minimum of 10 minutes saved in execution.

– A goal without a deadline is not really a goal, it’s merely a discussion.

– All successful people do a daily to-do checklist.

– The best time to make a list is at night so that your subconscious can think about it through the night and in the morning you are ready to get to work.

– The most important things on the list should be those that brings the biggest consequences.

– “No” is the greatest time-saving word. Just say no. Say it early and often.

– You can only get things done by not doing things that don’t matter as much.

– Use the 80-20% rule. Choose the 20% of your tasks that will give you 80% success and that day.

– There are urgent activities that are unimportant and urgent activities that are important. Most people spend the majority of time in the urgent activities that are unimportant. The key to good time management is to spend time in what is both urgent and important.

– Clarity is essential

– Delegate tasks to others.

– Concentrate on one thing at a time. If you cannot concentrate on what you’re doing, you will not be able to do it well or be successful.

– Procrastination is the thief of life. Your ability to overcome procrastination will determine your success.

– Use business meetings to plan. Start on time and have an agenda.

– A stand-up business meeting is sometimes the best meeting so that you can discuss what you need and then everyone can get back to work.

– Be wise in your reading. Tear out articles that you want to read but do not have time to read. Choose your books carefully. Read the title and first paragraph of an article instead of the whole article, most of the pertinent information is there.

– Remember that leaders are readers. You cannot stay current with information or grow if you do not selectively and frequently read.

– Invest in personal development. One of the best things that you can do for both you and your company is to continue growing and becoming better in your area of expertise.

– You can go no further tomorrow on the knowledge and information you have today – you must learn and grow more.

– You have to learn more to earn more.

– Attend seminars and learn from people who have been successful in your area of interest.

– Keep a clean desk, it will help you get more done in a less amount of time.

– Organization increases productivity.

 

– The quality of your life will be determined by three areas:

1. The quality of your inner life – how you feel and look at yourself.

2. Your health – no amount of success will compensate for your health. Eat right, exercise, and get the right amount of rest and relaxation.

3. Relationships – never be so busy that you do not have time for the key relationships in your life such as your marriage and children.

This is Where You Belong

This is Where You Belong

by Melody Warnick

 

– The average American moves 11.7 times in his/her life.

– People think that they will have it better and then soon feel that they are missing out by not being geographically elsewhere.

– We think the move will fix everything, that there is some magical reset button when we move to another place.

– It takes at least 6 months and often 3-4 years to adapt to a new place.

– Americans have become one of the most mobile people. Each year, 12% of Americans move. Americans are just as restless in their jobs as they are with moving, the majority changing jobs every few years.

– We talk about searching for happiness as if it was a geographical place.

– When it comes to where we live, it is more about what we think than about the geographical place. You can be happy at a place that others do not like.

– Studies have shown that whether you feel happy or not in a place will many times depend on the length of time you are in that place.

– Loving the place where you live is something that you can make happen.

– If you want to love your town, you have to act like you love it.

– You have to choose to love where you are at, it is a conscious effort.

– You can do things to enjoy where you live: walk, get friends, find and like certain restaurants, activities, etc. By liking a place, you will begin to feel like you belong in a place.

– We have to learn where things are at to orient ourselves if we are going to feel like we belong.

– Every city has beautiful places, you just have to figure out where they are.

– Go to a festival, buy tickets to a play, visit the parks and go to a game of a team that is in your city. When you start getting out, the city will become your home and you will begin to feel attached.

– Being satisfied where you live could actually be creating a repository of good memories that you have done in that place. Each memory will be penned to your mental bulletin board.

– Find what events and activities are going on in your town — search them online.

– Find the beautiful places that interest you and visit them often. People are happier living in places that they like, so find places what you like where you live.

– The more your hobbies lie in the place that you live, the more you will begin to love where you live.

– Do random acts of kindness in your city on a planned day: like take donuts to law enforcement offices, pick up trash, take quarters to Coke machines, go help someone, volunteer to help at fair or event, hand out water bottles, give restaurant card to new couple at your church, etc. The more you will give to your town, the more you will get out of it.

– At the end of the day, your personality is going to be as strong as your happiness wherever you live.

– Unpack your life wherever you are

– Wherever you’re at, find joy.

– The place we live is what we think it is.

– Emotions follow behavior, feelings follow action.

– If you are happy and healthy, than you are happy and healthy where you live.

– Relationships with people is what really makes you feel at home.

– Every place is good at something, do what they are good at.

– Happy memories create place attachment.

– There’s not a right place for everyone, just the right place for you right now.

– Experience joy for as long as you are there.

Turn up the Heat

Turn up the Heat

by Kevin Leman

 

– What does every godly man want from his wife? Sex. What does every godly woman want from her husband? Intimacy.

– Sex was intended to bring a man and woman closer, but lust has destroyed that – sex with intimacy is what sex is intended to be.

– Your wife must feel love, protected and wanted in order to have intimate sex.

– You must ask your wife what pleases her to understand and better please her.

– What you get out of marriage is what you put into it. If you say your sex life is not that great… well, when was the last time you used spontaneity?

– Bought her flowers, box of chocolates, took her on a special date, cooked something, etc.?

– You never stop dating your wife.

 

– Five great tips to dating your wife:

1. Initiate it, plan it and carry it out.

2. Accept your spouses attempts to do something new or different. If you reject her, she will likely not try again.

3. Be consistent, set a regular date night.

4. Splurge a little sometimes – isn’t your spouse worth a little something special?!

5. Do not forget about important dates – birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine’s Day, etc. Might not be important to you, but it very much likeliest to your wife.

 

– Marriage is all about giving your self to the other person and that means forgetting a lot of “I”.

– Every individual has unwritten rules in their life that they carry into marriage (“I don’t talk about sex”, “sex is dirty”, etc.). In order to have a good marriage, you need to get these things out in the open. If you get both of your “rulebooks” out in the open, you can talk about them and begin to have a better marriage.

 

– Here’s what a woman needs to enjoy sex:

1. Feel loved, prized and valued.

2. To be listened to and respected.

3. To have a romantic atmosphere.

4. Privacy.

5. Be understood and cuddled.

 

– A man can have sex anytime and anywhere no matter if sweaty or whatever the condition is. A woman feels like she needs her teeth brushed, cleaned up and everything perfect.

– Nothing will kill an intimate relationship so fast as criticism.

– It might feel like a mystery to figure out how, where and what your spouse likes when it comes to sex, but think of it as a challenge. If you want to figure out how to turn on your wife, than figure out what are the turn-ons and turn-off’s for her.

– Great sex requires great training, so you must ask your wife what feels good and what does not.

– Good sex requires that you are a good lover outside of the bedroom just as much as you are inside the bedroom – how you treat your wife will affect your sex life.

– Men on average have an estimate of 33 thoughts about sex each day.

– A healthy sex life is equivalent to what you get for running 26 miles.

– A man thinks about sex 33 times more than his wife does, he thinks about it all day long. The question is not if he thinks about sex rather what he thinks about sex.

 

– Five things a man can do for a woman:

1. Use words, sentences and complete thoughts to share your feelings with her.

2. Drawl bathwater for her, read to her and make her some tea.

3. Write a poem for her it and slip it in her car, write a special message/letter for her.

4. Light a scented candle for her.

5. Tell her how good she looks when she steps out of the shower.

 

– Real love thinks about the other person first and think about the other person most.

– How often should you have sex? How much or how little (along with any other questions) should be openly talked about and negotiated with your spouse.

– You may get aggravated you cannot figure out why your wife does not want to have sex after being home all day. She has stayed with the children, cleaned and taken care of the house. Instead of getting aggravated, figure out how you can help her and  what you can do for her and you will become her hero and she will be much more likely to give herself sexually to you.

– Although you can fool other adults, your kids sense when anything is wrong between you and your wife.

– A good sex life is one of the greatest things you should have for your marriage.

– You can improve your sex life by improving your communication.

– Many men have a difficulty in flipping the switch from work to the time when they get home. Maybe consider stopping at a park on the way home to sit and think, listening to some music that calms you down or doing something that can help you be the husband you need to be when you arrive home from work.

– When you fight, you have to fight fairly. If there is only a winner and a loser, very likely your marriage will end badly. Think and acknowledge how the other person feels. After a fight, learn to make up.

– If you suffer in your sex life, chances are that there are unsettled issues in your marriage. At the heart of the marriage relationship is the communication of what is best for the both of you.

 

– Things to ask your wife what will help improve your relationship:

1. If you had a magic wand and could change anything about our relationship, what would you change?

2. What are three things that you would like me to consider changing in the bedroom?

3. Are there some things in life that you have never told anyone? Would you be willing to tell me one of them?

4. What are the three most important things in life?

5. What would your life be like if I was not in it? What things would you have done or not done?

 

– Rules for fighting fair:

1. Hold hands.

2. Look The other person in the eye.

3. Don’t use the words such as “always” and “never”.

4. Don’t use the word “you”, use “I”.

5. Don’t go back to other problem that have been dealt with earlier.

– Many men suffer with understanding foreplay, but it is super important and needed for the wife. To the wife, foreplay is taking out the garbage, helping with the children, etc. The important thing is doing these things without having to be asked.

– The state of sex in your marriage is the state of your marriage.

 

– Rules for romance for a guy:

1. Set the table and have it ready.

2. Supper ready for what you get home.

3. Send the kids to someone else’s house.

4. Turn off the TV.

5. Turn some soft romantic music on.

6. Take her somewhere special.

7. Give her a card with the special note in it.

8. Take a shower together.

9. Rub her feet.

10. Give her a head massage.

 

– In life, you get what you pay for – and marriage is the same way. If you put time, money and energy into it, you’ll get much more out of it.
– Women are very self-conscious, so in order to let your wife know that you accept her: tell her how gorgeous she is, tell her how you specifically like her, take her shopping for a special outfit, etc. Gradually, your wife will become more comfortable with her body and with you.

– Criticism will kill your sex life and your marriage. Criticism erodes the foundation of a marriage – it’s all about fear and control.

– Begin writing down a list of things that you like about your spouse.

– A healthy sexual relationship fulfills both the husband and wife’s desires, it is what the way the Creator meant it to be.

– If you have small children or do not have family around, find another couple or two and form a co-op in which you could watch their children and you could watch your children another evening. This will give you opportunity to take your wife on a date.

– Your brain is the best sex organ that you have.

 

– 8 ways to make love with your wife outside of the bedroom:

1. Set up a shopping day for her and provide the cash or credit card

2. Clean up the basement and garage.

3. Pick up your own mess, hers and the children’s mess.

4. Wash the dishes.

5. Don’t pee on the toilet seat; put the toilet seat back down after you use the bathroom.

6. Always ask her for her opinion.

7. Take the kids to the doctor or dentist appointment… or anywhere.

8. Hire a limo to pick her up for her birthday dinner.

 

– A supportive spouse makes all the difference for past abuse in the spouse’s life.

In a couple’s sex life, there’s only room for two; no comparisons are allowed.

– Pornography is destructive to a marriage. Looking at pornography will make when you have sex that erotic pictures come to mind instead of your wife.

– Pornography will not allow you to enjoy sex with your wife. Pornography “de-peopleizes” and destroys.

– If you have had struggles with porn, go to drastic measures to put protection on your devices or unhook your Internet. Let your wife know about it and beat that struggle.

– If both of you are not feeling prized and good after having sex, it is not healthy sex.

– It is easy to get the marriage kicked off well, but it is not easy to continue having a good and strong marriage… but you can if you will work at it.