13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do
by Amy Morin
Mentally strong people have healthy habits.
Bad habits are like unwanted weights, they will hold you down and frustrate you, not letting you move forward.
Developing your mental strength is about controlling your emotions, behaviors and thoughts.
1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves Self-pity is self-destructive.
People to focus on the problem and disability instead of what can be accomplished in life even though there was an accident, those are the ones that move forward. Dwelling on the disability will run you.
Do you stay home from social activities just to dwell on your own problems? Do you think no one can understand you and your problems? Do you think about how everyone else is blessed? Do you think that the world is out to get you?
Pity is easy to do and reactionary. Feeling sorry for yourself self-destructive. Quit feeling sorry for yourself
A. Do a random act of kindness
Think or do something for others, it’s hard to absorb Eddie when you are helping others.
B. Do something active.
If you choose to look at the negative side of it in any situation, it will bring self-pity. If you choose to find a Silverlining in any situation, you will become thankful. There is a silver lining in every situation.
C. Exchange self-pity into gratitude.
- Keep a gratitude journal. Write down all the little things.
- Say what you are grateful for.
- Ask others what they are grateful for. Asking others with their grateful for a spark areas in your mind for what you should be grateful for.
- Teach your children to be grateful.
Focus on your blessings are not on your burdens.
Focusing on your blessings mental health, it also improves your physical health. Gratitude leads to positive emotions. People who are grateful seem to be happier, get sick less and feel better.
Grateful people usually forgive people more than those that are negative
2. They Don’t Give Away Their Power
When we do not forget, you’re giving our power over to those who have hurt us. Giving other people power over how you feel thank behave takes away your mental strength.
Set healthy physical and emotional boundaries for yourself.
You have the power to choose your own direction in life.
You do not have to feel the sense of being the victim.
Who are you devoting all of your time and energy to, are they worth receiving it? When you think about someone, how big or two or make you angry, you are giving them Lord mental strength, power it emotions.
A. Get your mind off of what you’re thinking about when you’re upset.
B. Distract yourself by going on a walk or doing something else.
C. Rephrase the words that you use, did not say they made you mad or you have to do something.
D. Retain your opinion. When you are criticized someone put you down, remember who you are and do not let it change you. E. Remember where the source of criticism came from.
One persons opinion of you does not make it true. Was there any truth in what they said, anything that should be changed about you? What’s what they said based on a one-time experience when you did not perform the best? Harboring bitterness only steals from you and give the other person power.
Choosing to forgive will allow you to retain your power.
Medically, choosing to forgive let you live longer. Choosing to forgive her to recover quicker, heal faster.
3. They Don’t Shy Away from Change A. All or nothing change.
B. Have it change – changing old habits or good habits. C. Behavioral change –
Change requires doing something different.
Shying away from change will not help anything. The longer we wait, the harder it gets. Create a list of why the change is needed and what it will do as a result.
Create a goal what you want to change the next 30 days.
I didn’t buy steps for the change and obstacles that stand in your wedding planning ahead will help you.
Keep yourself accountable by writing it down or sharing it with others.
Study of the behavior that you want to if you want to be more outgoing or more healthy., And study people about that.
4. They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control
It feels good to have control of something, but we cannot control all things.
Trying to control everything cause you not to enjoy what you have around you.
Trying to control things as a cover-up for your anxiety but it will backfire.
Trying to control everything waste the time and the energy.
Being a control freak damages.
You cannot control every situation i’m not the only thing that you can control is your behavior and your attitude.
By focusing on what you can control instead of can’t control, you will worry less. Practice acceptance. You cannot control the traffic so you might as well enjoy Music instead of punching the steering wheel and yelling.
Even though you do not like the situation you are in, you can choose to accept it. Increased happiness happens when people realize I cannot control every aspect of their lives.
You will have less stress when you realize you cannot control every situation.
You up new opportunities when you quit trying to control everything.
You will have better relationships be able to trust others when you quit trying to control everything.
You will have more success when you quit trying to control everything. Research shows that when you’re so focused on success or any other area, you try to control it and never reach the success that you are aiming for.
5. They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone
People pleasers usually damage relationships that you can’t please everyone. People pleasers usually lose sight of their values
Just because it pleases everyone does not make it right.
Worrying about what everyone else thinks it’s a waste of time. You cannot change what they think anyways so don’t waste time worrying about it.
You can’t please everyone – it is a possible that every person will be pleased with what you do.
People pleasers are often manipulated because people play on their emotions.
When Quit worrying about pleasing others who have more time and energy to direct towards the thing like it want.
6. They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks
We all take face challenges in our lives (physical, emotional, mental, financial)., But unless we take those risks we will never be able to find out what can happen. A lack knowledge of how to calculate the risks leads to fear.
You don’t get to be extraordinary without taking risks.
If we don’t take risks, we are off to choosing between ordinary or extraordinary life.
Base your risks more on facts and not feelings.
What are the potential cost for this risk?
What are the potential benefits for this risk?
What is the worst case scenario oh if the risk went bad?
Taking calculated risks will give you insight in areas and teach you more.
Success will not find you, you have to pursue it.
7. They Don’t Dwell on the Past
You can’t change the past
When something bad happens, don’t keep replaying it in your mind. Staying stuck in the past is not healthy nor helpful.
Dwelling on the past will distract you from living and working in the present.
You’ll miss out on new opportunities and living things today if you’re dwelling on the past.
Dwelling on the past can lead to depression.
Going on the past can make you exaggerate of how things were perfect back then and are not as good now.
You can learn from the past so it just beating yourself up over the past.
Steps goals for the future. It is impossible to dwell on past if you’re making goals about future.
Decide to think about something else when you began falling on the past. Make peace with the past:
- Give yourself a mission to move forward.
- Recognize the toll of dwelling on the past versus living in the present.
- Practice forgiveness.
- Change activities so that you’re mine does not stay dwelling on the past.
If you spend all of the time looking in the rearview mirror, you will never be able to look out of the windshield.
8. They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over
When we deny our mistakes, you’re more likely to repeat them in the future.
Would you make the same mistakes over and over about your tire yourself out nowhere
– just like a dog chasing its tail.
You’ll never be able to solve the problem if you continue repeating the problem over and over.
Identify clear strategies to avoid making the same mistake.
Create a plan to not repeat the mistakes.
Find a way to hold yourself accountable.
Practice self-discipline. It is not a matter if some out so I’ll just plan something not I’ll buy everyone does, it’s just a matter of practicing it. Learning from your mistakes will make you stronger.
Mentally strong people will share their mistakes with others so that they don’t make them.
9. They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success
Resentment is like drinking or bills another person – Nelson Mandela.
It’s easy to resent others when you don’t even know what what yourself. Resentment anytime just because your knees.
A resentment many times comes from a lack of understanding others. We think that their life is perfect or that they never have problems.
You will never enjoy what you have if you are always thinking about what others have.
You will never be satisfied because you’re always looking to what others up.
You will never grow up or get better yourself – when you’re always looking to others, you’re not focusing on what you have or what you’re doing therefore you cannot get better at it.
Never enjoy your relationship with others if you’re secretly holding grudges.
- Avoid comparing yourself to others.
- Get to know people – if you get to know someone, it is very likely that you will not think as bad about them.
- Quit magnifying other people Straits – resentment many times come from magnifying the strengths of others.
- Avoid deciding what is fair for you and everyone else
When you’re tempted to what other people success, remember your own definition of success.
Don’t compare yourself to everyone around you.
Learn to cooperate with others cannot compete with them.
If you focus on your own goals, you don’t have to worry about other people success.
10. They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure
Although some people don’t give up with failure and that gives them the desire to keep going, maybe just give up.
Failure can be a wonderful experience if you will continue moving forward afterwards.
Those who give up after failing the first time ever accomplish much.
Grit is that better detector and IQ – your IQ does not mean you’ll be successful, grit usually does.
By thinking about what you can learn through the process, failure will only be part of the process and not devastating.
Failure is part of the process of success.
You can learn from failure, you can benefit from it and it will make you a better person.
Face your fear of failure.
If you get used to failing, it is not that scary, especially if you can do it over and over again and become better because of it.
Bouncing back after failure would make you successful.
Failure can build character as well as identify strengths that you would never found without the failure.
Don’t allow yourself to think that failure is worse than it really is.
11. They Don’t Fear Alone Time
The thought of spending time alone scares people about they don’t want it.
Most have background music on, they never want to be alone, waste of time and feel it is unproductive.
People who feel like they must accomplish something all the time try to avoid alone time. Some people feel guilty about it. But alone time is needed.
Loneliness is a feeling that no one is with you, but solitude is a choice to be alone to think and reflect.
Solitude can increase productivity.
Spending alone time can spark creativity.
Solitude provides restoration.
Although it is not easy to stop and take time for yourself, there are great group questions for those who do not do it.
Stopping for time to walk, garden, etc. will actually help you not hurt you.
You must schedule solitude in a long time just like you to schedule other things.
Trying to fall asleep or drown yourself with background noise is not healthy.
Take time to stop and reflect on your goals or write in journal.
Turn off technology and take some some time by taking a date alone.
It is not healthy trying to be so busy that we only focus on productivity or what we accomplish. Taking time to journal is not a waste. Background music every moment is not healthy.
12. They Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything
Thinking that you deserve things could be just as detrimental as that you are superior.
Overindulging parenting will hurt your child to grow up.
We live in a social media world tells us we deserve everything.
We often say that some someone has something better after we are trying to help them, but the world does not work that way. The world owes us nothing. Everyone in this world has problems, you’re not the only one.
You’re different from everyone else, but that does not make you better or more deserving than everyone else.
Although you cannot control all the situations, you can control your feelings and reactions.
Focus on your efforts and set up your importance.
Become a team player, see how you can make other people better instead of thinking about yourself.
Acknowledge your flaws and weaknesses, everyone has them. Do not have a inflated self perception.
Learn to receive correction and criticism in the right way, that will make people like or dislike you.
Practice humility often.
When you quit trying to show off, you can improve your job performance.
Accept what the world get you without complaining that you deserve or want something better.
Give back to others in need.
Quit taking only your own feelings and perspectives.
13. They Don’t Expect Immediate Results
We must have an understanding that success does not happen overnight.
Mentally strong people realize that it takes time, I think it’s instant.
One in 10 Americans take anti-depression pills at any start taking them before they are medically prescribed.
we live in a world that we have everything now – you don’t have to wait for a letter to arrive because you can send email, you don’t have to watch commercials because we have movies on demand, order online, etc.
Personal changes and people to not move as fast as technology.
Unrealistic expectations for it’s a change will only set you up to fail.
We give up on our goals wait to seven. We start to exercise and see no change so we quit, but the body is working up to a progress of change. Most quit New Year’s resolutions wait too soon.
Wanting fast change anytime causes people to do illegal things: steroids, cheating, lying, etc.
When you want the cake to bake faster, you open up the oven door but as a result that he goes out. And when you are in a hurry in life, you’re rushing things that you lose momentum.
Commit for the long haul.
Create realistic expectations.
Recognize that progress is not always obvious.
Do you know if restorations of the healthy manner – some days you feel like giving up.
Keep your eye on the end goal in mind.
Delay self gratification.
If you want to change the way you feel, you have to change the way you think.