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The Coaching Habit

The Coaching Habit

by Michael Stanier


– Coaching should be a daily, informal event not a rare, formal event that is announced.

– Coaching lies within building and helping others.

– Theory is no good if you do not know how to put it into practice.

– Ask just one question and then keep quiet and listen so they can respond.

– Small talk might be a way to start up, but it rarely leads to a good conversation piece.

– Be careful not to coach for performance but for development.

– If you know what questions to ask, get straight to the point.

– Instead of warming up or waiting around hoping to get to the point, just ask the question and then shut up and listen to what the person has to say.

– Tell less and ask more.

– Ask one more time. We tend to not ask enough, so for clarity sake, make sure to ask one more time.

– Learn to say “and what else”.

– Do not ask a rhetorical question, ask a real question.

– Begin with “what’s on your mind?”

– The reasonable man adapts himself to the world, the unreasonable man tries to adapt the world to himself. Therefore it is the unreasonable man that makes the progress.

– Commit more slowly by not saying yes or no so quickly. Listen and ask questions.

– When you have to say no, make sure it is clear that you’re saying no to the task and not note to the person.

– There are book ends to a good conversation when coaching someone: “what’s on your mind” to start and “what was most helpful to you” to finish.

– Add more curiosity. A little less advice and a lot more of curiosity will get you further.

Jeffrey Bush

Jeff Bush became the General Director of Vision Baptist Mission in May 2012. Prior to this assignment the Bush family faithfully served the Lord for 8 years in Argentina, South America. During their time in Argentina, God blessed their efforts resulting in five churches, a radio ministry, and a Bible college to train those called to the ministry.

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