Time Starved Marriage
by Les Parrott
– In the rat race of life, we are so busy that we rarely make time for each other.
– There is more written on money, a commodity that can be lost and regained, than there is on time, a commodity that when lost cannot be regained.
– Don’t live in the “some-day” mentality.
– Time can’t be stopped or saved, time marches on.
– Find something as a couple to laugh at every day.
– Business is a marriage killer. It’s not helping marriages. It depletes love lives. It steals your fun. Business is not a badge of honor.
– A marriage cannot survive on leftovers. Giving your spouse the leftover time and energy that you have will destroy your marriage not build your marriage.
– How can you eliminate hurriedness in your marriage?
– We cannot find time but we can make more time. Place priorities where they should and focus time around the right things.
– What are the things that will bring you closer together as a couple? Is it a date night, playing tennis together, a walk, etc.?
– Take advantage of time that you already have this: talk or pray together before going to bed, just take a few minutes alone while out running errands, talk about good memories you’ve shared, etc.
– Time Stealers:
1. Past problems or conversations that have not been resolved.
2. Technology — what should save time is actually stealing time
3. Impatience — it kills what could be a good moment.
4. Clock — if we are not careful, it turns into having a race. Hurry up and do something so we can move on, we’re going to be late, too many activities, etc.
– Nothing can steal your time unless you do nothing about it.
– Just as food is better when you slow down, savor and enjoy it, the same goes for your marriage.
– Work at minimizing your financial strains and your marriage will be helped. If you have debt, get a plan to get out of it.
– Three R’s that can help your marriage:
1. Rest — not getting enough rest causes a lot of problems.
2. Recreation — there’s no excuse for being so busy that you can’t separate a few weeks for vacation in the year.
3. Restoration — we need the weekends to be restored, making time for church and time for each other.