by Amber Lia and Wendy Speake
– You must ask God for the wisdom to help your children.
– It might just be that God wants to start the change in your life, are you willing to let him?
– God may want to work in you before he works through you as a parent.
– You should speak to your children more about what they should be doing instead of what they should not be doing. If all you do is gripe and give negative feedback, you are giving the wrong message. 1 Thessalonians 5:11 should be the example here.
– There’s not a one-size-fits-all way in raising kids (naps, chores, discipline, etc.), but whatever you do, you must be consistent!
– You should allow natural consequences to teach your children lessons in life. Allowing them to suffer some natural consequences does not hurt them, it teaches and prepares them for life.
– Your tone, looks and body language are much more important than the words we speak to our children.
– It is humbling to go to your children and apologize, but it is that humility that will build and strengthen a relationship.
– In the moments that your children argue with you and/or say hurtful things, decide not to return cursing for cursing rather blessings for cursing. You can respond right and set the example.
– Contentment does not come natural, it must be learned, and it’s your job as a parent to teach it to your children.
– Teach your children that the only person that they can control is themselves. Getting mad or trying to change or fix others will be in vain, they have to learn to react correctly.
– When your children fight, wait and then ask them what they think they need to do to correct and maintain a right relationship with their sibling. Let them give advice instead of telling them what to do.
– The road for independence is one of the hardest for parents to manage — allowing them to go to bed later, more freedom on technology, etc.
– Learning to give your kids independence is boiled down to trusting — trusting the Lord and trusting your children. – Parenting on the same page with your spouse is paramount in child-raising.