By Abigail Shrier
- A wave hit the parenting generation, causing them to avoid authoritarian parenting, to seek help from professionals, and to believe they know a superior way of parenting. But after all the advice, avoidance of discipline, and listening to what society said, they’ve raised the loneliest, most anxious, depressed, pessimistic, helpless, and fearful generation on record.
- Raising a generation of not spanking has produced a generation not wanting to have children of their own.
- The mental health industry is minting patients faster than they can cure them.
- According to Ortiz, a well educated therapist, therapy rarely works with a child. It would be better to treat the parents, then it would to treat a child.
- When a parent pays money for a therapist to treat their child, they’re telling their child that there’s something wrong with them, and the problem is above their pay grade.
- Having children or young adults focus on their emotions only increases emotional stress.
- Although there is more focus on treatment today, mental illness has risen to a new high in the US.
- Leading children to focus on their emotions will cause them to become more emotional.
- Adults should be telling their children how unreliable emotions can be, instead of focusing on them.
- Too many times, parents act like their ultimate goal is their children’s happiness. But the more you seek happiness, the more haunted you will be.
- Though parent might try to protect and make children comfortable, they’re likely creating more fears in the child.
- Not everyone is helped by talking about their problems. In fact, some are hindered by it.
- Therapist want to blame anything wrong in your life on your childhood. Since parents are responsible for your childhood, they become the easy target, and it is very trendy today for children to cut off their parents.
- If we are not careful, we are turning young people into emotional hypochondriac.
- Everyone has pains, but a hypochondriac focuses on his pains, believing he is the only one that has them.
- In the past, teachers would begin the day with pledges of allegiance, but today it has become very popular to start the day with emotional check-ins. Instead of checking on emotions, it should be taught one should worry less, think less of themselves, ruminate less, and verbalize their problems less.
- With children, whatever you focus on is what you feed. Many are unintentionally watering the weeds more than the flowers.
- All bad behavior is not necessarily a cry for help.
- We are hurting children by telling them they cannot get over past or difficulties in life.
- Resilience seems to be pushed to the side and trauma has been pushed to the front.
- Focusing on trauma becomes an excuse for why you cannot accomplish more in life.
- Doing something nice for someone else and thinking about others will get your mind off of your own problems.
- Schools call parents “partners,” and pediatricians let parents know what the children need from them. And school psychologist inform parents how to talk to their kids. The authority has been pulled away, and parents are now equal to their children.
- Raising your children according to what the “experts say” might not be the best for you or for your child. Parenting is not a skill, it is a relationship.
- Your children will benefit more by knowing you are in charge and that you don’t think there is something wrong with them.
- Having kids is one of the best things you can do. Raise them well, because you’re the only one who can do it.