by Shanti Feldman
- In a guy’s mind, saying, “I do” seals the deal. For a girl, it is not a sealed deal, she must know over and over that her man “still does.”
- Your wife wants to know if you still love her and if you would choose her all over again.
- In a survey done by the author, 70% of women said their constant worry is if their husband still loves them.
- Constantly reassure your wife that you love her, and continue pursuing her.
- 95% of women in the survey said they’d be helped if their husbands asked for space instead of just closing down and ignoring them.
- If your wife is upset, first, assume it is your fault. Next, ask what you have done. Next, do not assume the words “I am fine” mean that she is fine. And lastly, pursue her gently until she let you in.
- As men, we get aggravated that our wives do not tell us when or why they’re upset. The fault most likely lies with us as husbands. After we have gotten upset multiple times, and not understood her, we have trained her to not want to tell us when or why she’s upset.
- Although a guy’s idea of security is financial, 7 out of 10 women said they’d prefer to endure financial struggles over distancing themselves from their husbands.
- Security, in the eyes of your wife, means that you are close to each other, make her a priority, demonstrate your commitment, and are active at home. Once all these are taken care of, you financially provide as well.
- Your wife wants to be your love and your best friend.
- Learning to listen is one of the hardest things for a guy. We think we are listening and try to help, but our wives are need listening without any advice.
- All guys know that she wants you to listen and not fix it, but we do not know how to interpret it. Men think not fixing it means to listen without offering a solution, but it really means listen to know how she feels emotionally. She wants you to focus on her feelings, not the problem.
- When you listen, just listen. Acknowledge her feelings out loud, and then affirm her.
- Good sex starts with paying attention to your wife outside of the bedroom. A high percentage of women agreed that him be around the house would change things.
- There’s only one mirror in your wife’s life, and that’s you.
- Your wife is still a little girl at heart twirling and asking if you think she’s pretty.