Why not to take your parents when move to mission field? Mark Tolson

    • You can’t treat them right, it is selfish to want to give them all the hard work (dealing with kids in the plane and with jet lag once arrived) when you are suppose to be the “hero” missionaries making the sacrifice to reach your country.
    • It is “out of focus”—meaning that you land on the field and start running and working, this is what you have been dreaming of for years and you won’t be able to do that because you have to take care of your parents (no matter how tuff you are on your parents, they are always needy because they are foreigners in the country). How will they eat, sleep, get around when you can’t even do the basics yet?
    • It shows mistrust towards the missionary because they have people who are able to watch your kids when you land on the field, but instead of trusting their judgement you are brining your parents.
    • It shows a lack of authority and leadership, that you can’t tell your parents/in laws “No, now is not the best time to come, I have a job to do, you can come in a year.”
    • It continues jet-lag and doesn’t help overcome it. If parents are stuck in a room all day watching your children while you are out and about buying the necessitates, then it is most likely the parents and the children will be sleeping on and off through the day. To adjust to jet lag you need to be awake all day and being “out and about” helps you and your children to be moving. If a maid is needed to watch the kids, at least she is fully awake to help the kids stay awake.

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What should your goals be while you are on deputation? By Austin Gardner

  1. Try to get 13 meetings a month and do not be satisfied until you do.
  2. Since it is difficult to impossible to get 13 meetings or churches per month then when you do not have a meeting just drop in to new churches or churches where you have already been. Try to develop a friendship with different pastors and cultivate future opportunities to get support.  While dropping in be sure to shake hands, wear your Macedonia pin, and give out prayer cards like candy.  Then send a letter thanking the pastor for his kindness in allowing you to drop in to his service.  Of course you are going to send an information sheet about yourself and your ministry.  Always have your calendar handy and ask for a meeting if given the chance.
  3. Send out a monthly newsletter, prayer letter. The more you get your name and information out there the more they will know who you are and have interest in you.  Be very positive in your prayer letter.
  4. I send out my prayer letter in bulk with an address correction on it. That way I know if it is getting to them or not.  I do not drop names from my list.  Send your information.  You never know when God may touch someone’s heart to take you on.
  5. Be careful to send out very positive confirmation and thank you letters. Always include information about the country where you are going and the need.  Be sure to have a good information sheet about yourself to send out along with your confirmation letter.
  6. Make phone calls every day even if you spend more than $300 per month on the phone. You want to book as many meetings as you can.  Book for the next 2 or 3 years.  You can always cancel if you get your support and have to go to the field.
  7. Always look for new names. Ask every missionary you see.  Ask your pastor and pastor friends.  Get names and use them.
  8. Be careful to work at least 8 hours a day 5 or 6 days a week. Being a missionary ought not take less time a week than your secular job did.  If you gave 40 or 50 hours a week to the world how much more should you give to God.
  9. More important than all the secular, carnal things that you do will be your walk with God. After all it is God who gives us our support.  Be sure to pray each day.  Get in the Word.  Ask God to open doors.  Look to Him and not to methods etc.
  10. Be careful to keep a good attitude about your work, calling, support, love offerings, pastors etc. God is watching your attitude.  Often times deputation is a time when God molds a man.  Don’t do anything to hinder what God wants to do in your life.

If you think it will take 3 years and plan and work that way it just may take 4 years.  Why not set goals that are higher than that.  Shoot for 1 year.  If you can’t get it in 1 then go for 2 but don’t drag your feet and don’t waste time.  Don’t make excuses.  It would be better to try and fail than not to try at all.  Work like you would have to to make it in 1 year and you will still get there quicker than if you work like it might take 2 or 3.

Basically you need to get in around 200 churches and drive over 100,000 miles to get to the field.  How long you drag it out is up to you.

I found a list of the following qualifications for missionaries that I thought you might like to consider.  We may not agree with everyone but it would do us well to consider each of these and make sure we are ready for the mission field.

Relationships with the Nationals

Maybe the most important aspect of our work as missionaries outside of the strictly spiritual realm is that of our relationship with nationals.  So many good men and women go to the field and do not accomplish what they could even though they are very well trained and prepared for the work.  It is not enough to have a good education or to be a spiritual man of God.  You must also know how to relate to people.  You are the visitor to their country.  You must learn to think in terms of how they view things and not what you like or want.

Below you will find the counsel given by Emilio A. Núñez C. and a group of his former students at the Central American Theological Seminary in Guatemala.  I do not necessarily agree with everyone but since they were each stated by nationals I believe that they deserve your careful consideration.

SUGGESTIONS FOR NEW MISSIONARIES AND THEIR ADAPTATION TO LATIN AMERICA

  1. Remove from your head your great American ideas of how things should be done here.
  2. Do not think you have come to work with uncivilized people.
  3. Do not teach so much theory, but practice your teaching in your life. Show us how it works in
    real life as you model the truth.
  4. Read about Latin America and my country. Find out who our best authors are.
  5. Have more contact with the people, not only in the churches but in your social life.
  6. Live at an adequate level, neither too high above us nor too low below us. Adapt your life-style to the people with whom you work.
  7. Do not talk in English when there are people present who do not understand it. This is rude on your part, and we tend to suspect that you are talking about us.
  8. Do not impose your American customs on us or belittle ours. Do not try to make us into little North Americans.
  9. Do something to meet the social needs of our people, whether it be literacy, relief, or development projects.
  10. Do not feel that you are superior to me. We can sense pride even in small amounts.  You came to serve in humility, and it is best that you not compare cultures, trying to prove yours is better.
  11. Show love to people as you do in your country, and then learn how we do it here.
  12. Learn our language well: our sayings and proverbs, our youth slang if appropriate, our subjunctive, our regional and national accents.
  13. Try to learn our language so well that you speak without a foreign accent.
  14. Read about our continental and national heroes: Bolivar, Miranda, Juárez, San Martín, and others.
  15. Be willing to accept our suggestions. That may hurt, but we want to help.  You have to accept them with humility.  Learn the meaning of Proverbs 27:6 and 17.

Proverbs 27:6 Faithful [are] the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy [are]deceitful.

Proverbs 27:17 Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.

  1. Watch the way you speak to us. We are very sensitive to the tone of voice and the choice of words.  We are touchy people.
  2. Be more diplomatic in your relationships with us. Do not greet us as you gringos greet each other.  You seem too cold and distant.  Ask about our families and our personal lives.
  3. Learn to touch us appropriately. You people seem very cold in human relations.  There is noting like a great abrazo.
  4. See yourself as a co-equal with us, neither higher nor lower.
  5. Develop serious and deep friends from among us, people with whom you can be transparent and vulnerable. This will take time and is costly.  But you can ask them about the intimate things, about ideas and other topics.,  This step is risky, for the  closer you get to us the more unhappy you might make your missionary colleagues.
  6. Love without talking about it. Just show it.
  7. Show that you lovingly expect much from us with coming across as a paternalistic chief.
  8. Make disciples among us leaving a human and reproducible legacy when you leave.
  9. Eat and like our food, not just Pizza Hut and McDonald’s. We also like to know what you eat
    at home as a family.
  10. Learn to dress like Latins, using our styles and fabrics.
  11. Be more flexible in terms of time., Slow down!  Why are you always in a hurry,  looking at your watch?  There is more to life than time.
  12. Learn and appreciate our music and instruments, both folk and classical.
  13. Drop the terms pounds and miles, and then learn to give weights and distances in kilos and kilometers.
  14. Struggle honestly with our struggles: social, historical, cultural, church, and Christian life.  Do not just give us capitalistic answers, and do not reduce societal problems to simplistic spiritual solutions.
  15. Learn to read the Bible from our perspective and culture. You will have to work at this, but it is worth it.  Note how much of the Bible was written to people who lived in
    violence, injustice, and political uncertainty.
  16. Remember that we think differently from the way you do, and our problem-solving is different from yours. Learn how we do it.
  17. Come and stay with us for a long time. Short terms are shortcuts many times.
  18. At the same time, be bold enough to examine whether or not you should stay in Latin America as a missionary. Perhaps some of you should return home, particularly if you cannot adjust here, or do not know why you came, or are having serious family problems, or cannot work with us.

missionary’s equipment

Hudson Taylor, the great man of God and missionary statesman, lists the following as the missionary’s equipment:

From the book A Biblical Theology of Missions by Peters — page 297-298

  1. A life yielded to God, controlled by His Spirit.
  2. A restful trust in God for the supply of all needs.
  3. A sympathetic spirit and willingness to take a lowly place.
  4. Tact in dealing with men and adaptability toward circumstances.
  5. Zeal in service and steadfastness in discouragements.
  6. Love for communion with God and for the study of His Word.
  7. Some experience and blessing in the Lord’s work at home.
  8. A healthy body and a vigorous mind.

Importance of Language Learning By Georgia Webb, Mexico

A missionary candidate once asked me, “Do you know of any successful missionary who did not have much language aptitude?” My answer was “Yes, I have known some, but all of them had done their best to learn the language.” I have never known one successful missionary who did not work at learning the language.

Another missionary candidate told me frankly that he had no intention of learning the language, that he planned to use an interpreter. He soon went back to the United States.

It is possible to be fluent in the language and to fail as a missionary, or to be deficient in the language and succeed in the work, but I do not believe the latter will be true if the missionary does not do all he can since acquiring the language is of paramount importance!

It is my opinion, based on 61 years of observation, that failure to acquire a working knowledge of the language is the number one cause of missionary casualties. This is sometimes true even when it is not the expressed cause. It may be the underlying cause even when the missionary says, and most likely sincerely believes, that he is leaving the field for other reasons.

The real reason may simply be that this missionary is unhappy. Without the language, there can be no cultural adaptation. Once a new missionary gets over the excitement of being where the Lord has called him to minister and a certain fascination with all that is new and different, a sense of loneliness and homesickness sets in. This is natural and will go away as the missionary learns enough of the new language to be able to participate in the life of the country. But if there is no language learning, there is no cultural adaptation, and the missionary has no life outside of his family and other English-speaking foreigners. He then becomes unhappy and leaves the field.

Then too, not knowing the language results in much frustration in the ministry. How can you lead someone to the Lord if you can’t speak his or her language? How can you counsel effectively through an interpreter? I was told of a missionary who in a large evangelistic meeting told the audience through an interpreter that if anyone would like to know more to call and talk to him. Someone in the audience responded, “How can we? You can’t understand us.”

Preaching or teaching through an interpreter is usually very unsatisfying, no matter how good the interpreter is. In the early days of the work in Mexico, G. Beauchamp Vick, who was noted for his very eloquent messages, came to Mexico and preached in our churches. His interpreter, missionary ‘Big Jim’ Smith, told him, “Keep it simple, Dr. Vick, because no matter how much steak you put into it, when I finish with it, it will be hamburger meat!”

In these days of a global economy, English is spoken in many parts of the world. It becomes a temptation to some missionaries not to bother to learn the native language of their people, but the hearts of people can rarely be reached except through their heart language, their mother tongue. It takes a great deal of effort and prayer to learn a new language, but it is worth it.

Learning the language requires a willingness to make mistakes, be corrected, and even be laughed at. When I first got to Mexico, I worked with a national pastor who was always getting up in front of the congregation and saying, “Have you heard the latest of Luisa’s jokes?” It wasn’t fun to be laughed at, but at least I learned not to say that again. Eventually I realized they weren’t laughing at me, they were laughing at the hilarious things I said.

Languages vary in their degree of difficulty for English-speaking people. Some use that fact as an excuse not to bother with language learning. But the fact that the language of one’s people group is harder than some others just means it will take longer to learn. But no language is unlearnable. To a child, one language is as easy to learn as another.

Now for some recommendations.

  1. To future missionaries:

Expose yourself to foreign languages as much as possible now. Study one if possible. Make the acquaintance of people who speak another language. Listen to recordings of other languages. Listening is the first step in language learning, so listen, listen, listen.

I do not recommend trying to learn a language on your own. I tried to do that with German. When I finally found a German lady to help me, I realized it hadn’t worked. You will need correction.

Learning all you can in advance pays off. I had two years of Latin in high school. Then I had 10 semester hours of Spanish in college, and later took private classes at a Berlitz language school. The result? I started teaching in Spanish three weeks after I got to Mexico. However, this will not be true in all cases. Remember, I had a national pastor who always corrected any mistake I made and told everybody about all the funny ones!

Back then, in 1948, we knew nothing about language school. But we do now. I highly recommend that new missionaries enroll in the very best language school they can find, preferably on their field of service. Most will need the organization and discipline of a school. If none are available, by all means find a good tutor, one who will correct you… and maybe laugh at you!

  1. To pastors and churches:

Encourage new missionaries to make language learning their priority. You want them to reach people for the Lord and build indigenous churches on the field. Help them see that this can only be accomplished if they take the time to learn the language and the culture. Your missionaries appreciate and respect you. You will be a blessing to them and to their work if you influence them to make language learning their priority.

Preparing for Furlough

Furlough is an important time in a missionary’s life. It can be viewed as an annoying hiccup in ministry and therefore ignored, but furlough can be a great thing for the missionary, their family, and their ministry. Allow me to give a few of the “preparations” needed to make furlough a good time instead of a dreaded time.

 

1. Vehicle.

If you don’t have one Stateside, you can rent one through a missionary service such as Righteous Rides or Baptist Missionary Transportation Ministry (BMTM). You can buy one and have family keep it while you’re gone so that you can use it on your next furlough or you can purchase a cheap one that you can turn around and sell when you leave.

2. Housing. 

You can go online to search and rent one before you ever arrive back to the US. Your home church may have a mission’s house or another church in the area may have a mission’s house that you could use.

Cautions to consider:

  1. It’s good to see family, but it is best to live in a place where you can be around people that will help, teach, challenge and prepare you for the next level of ministry.
  2. It’s best not to stay at family or friend’s houses unless you have your own entrance, kitchen, and bathroom. You need your privacy. Sharing a kitchen or bathroom is ok for few days or a week, but afterward, it is very likely to cause problems.

 

3. Raise Support.

It is best to call 3–4 months before you leave the field to begin filling your calendar. If you do not need to raise support, don’t worry about visiting new churches, but if you need more support, it is best to book meetings and get your calendar full. If you wait to call until you arrive back Stateside, you will likely not get any meetings booked right away. Most pastors book a minimum of 3–4 months out.

If you are raising money for land, buildings, or a project, it may be better to visit already-supporting churches. If you are trying to raise your support, it is best to book new churches.

4. Growth While on Furlough.

Marriage – go to a marriage retreat and read a minimum of one marriage book.

Ministry – read books, go see other missionaries and people who can help you. Set up times to meet one on one with your mentor and experienced people who can help you.

Family – plan some getaway times and fun things for everyone to do together.

5. Your Children. 

If possible, you can put your children in a school. If you are going to homeschool, get the curriculum needed and everything prepared for their education while on furlough.

Allow your kids to get involved in the children’s program or youth program at the church you will be based from. Maybe look for some sports programs or activities that your kids can be involved in as to enjoy their time in the US and take advantage of things that they will not be able to do or learn on the field.

6. Start Preparing Ministry (leaders and church)

Six months before your departure, you should map out your exit by writing down how many Sundays and midweek services you have before you leave. Make a plan so that the national leadership is 100% taken over everything before you ever leave the field.

Furlough is a very good and needed thing for your ministry. Missionaries typically do not like it for fear of the ministry falling apart, but this is a very needed test and lesson for the ministry on the field. Preparing the people and churches for your departure will help the transition (your leaving) go smoothly. Plan times that you will be late to church so that they will learn to start without you being present. Plan to be gone for entire services. Plan to be present but not do anything. Meet with the pastor(s) and help him have a schedule of what he will be preaching. Give the leaders tools for studying, preaching, teaching and leading ministries. By preparing the people and ministries, your departure can go smoothly instead of abruptly.

7. Health. 

Schedule any doctor or dental appointments needed for you or for your children. Whether just check-ups or concerns, go ahead and try to set up appointments before you leave the field.

8. Preaching and Teaching.

Prepare several messages you can use while on furlough. Since you are a veteran, it is very likely that you will be asked to preach more than one message at the same church so make sure you have several messages ready.

9. Personal or Promotional Material. 

Prepare and order prayer cards and a display so that they will be shipped and waiting for you when you arrive back Stateside. If you are not a graphic designer, you can pay one of the many who are good in this area.

You may want to record good video footage to make or have made a presentation you can send to and update all your supporting churches.

10. Plan a minimum of one good family vacation.

As you travel around to churches, look for opportunities to take the family to visit national and historic sites, but also plan to set aside some time for a fun family vacation that the kids will remember for the rest of their lives.

 

Jeffrey Bush

When Visitors Visit the Missionary on the Field

When I served as a missionary, having visitors (family, home church, youth group or just a single or couple individuals) was a blessing, but it was also a lot of work. My goal in this short article is to give a few ideas and suggestions as you host guests. Having a plan will help the time together and influence someone for the cause of Christ.

  1. Write out a planned schedule. This plan will be your roadmap during your visitor’s stay.
    1. Take them to the highest points of the city. Let them take pictures of the city and talk to them about how they are like sheep without a shepherd, a people in need of the Gospel.
    1. Give a gift basket when your guests arrive. For a large group, just have a basket for the leaders.  Bottled water in the basket is always appreciated.
    1. Give them your address and phone number (as well that of your wife’s or any pastor/leader you work with) so they can easily contact you or find their way back if separated from the group.
    1. Rent a vehicle (possibly a bus) if there are several people so that you can easily get around together. You can figure the cost in what the group pays while visiting you.
    1. Take them to religious temples (Hindu, Buddhist, Catholic, etc.). Talk to them about the spiritual condition of your country and allow them to see it first hand.
    1. Take them to poor areas in the city and see the poverty, and talk about the spiritual poverty that abounds.
    1. Go to where large crowds of people are and let them pass out Gospel tracts.
    1. Make sure they’re comfortable. Do they have food allergies? Is it going to be hot or cold while they are there? Find out their needs and/or wants. Remember that if they are not comfortable, they are not as likely to listen to you when you challenge them nor will they like your country (because of a rough experience).
    1. 10.Let your visitors give testimonies, sing specials and preach when they visit your church(es). Do not do everything yourself in the church service, let them get involved. When they are involved instead of just watching, it makes their visit all the more greater.
    1. 11.Take them to see the lights of the city at night and talk to them about how each light represents several souls that are in need of Christ.
    1. 12.Find out the tourist attractions in your area and take them there, using each one as a preaching point. Let them see the history of your country, spiritual state of the country and culture of your country. Let them buy souvenirs to take back.
    1. 13.Take them to a cemetery, show them graves and dates in which people died and then ask them where they think all of the people are now.  Know when the Gospel first arrived to the country and how many people before that didn’t have much of a chance to hear the Gospel.
    1. 14.Make it your goal to preach, teach, motivate and show the obvious need while they are visiting you.  No one should visit your field without seeing the need and feeling the burden to be a missionary, or at the least being challenged to do more in missions.
    1. 15.Let them try food from your country, but mainly give them food that will not upset their stomach and make them sick. Just give them a taste of the food from your country and then take them to restaurants or make food at home that they are familiar with. Everyone likes adventure, but in small quantities.
    1. 16.Let your local church people give their testimonies and translate it for the visitors so that they can see what God is doing. If you have young men training for ministry (or pastors), let them preach to the visitors; this can be very powerful.
    1. 17.Give them tours and explain both the religion and culture of your country.  Let them observe the people at religious institutions. Why do the people have a red dot on their forehead? Why do they bow down to idols? Why do they have ribbons on their vehicles? Why do they have a call to prayer? Why do they dress in a certain way? Remember that what you are now accustomed to is very foreign to your visitors so be sure to explain all of it.
    1. 18.Make sure the hotel (or guest house or wherever you put the visitors) is nice. It does not have to be luxurious, but you do not want to scare them or make it where they do not enjoy their visit (this will give them a bad concept of the country, the people and of you as a missionary).
    1. 19.Have a devotional time in the morning and evening as a group. Be sure to give challenges and talk to them about the need all throughout the day.
    1. 20.Let them participate in ministry. Let the leaders teach your church people and especially those you’re training for ministry.
    1. 21.Do activities that people like and will remember. What do you want them to remember from their trip/visit? You don’t want them bored because you do not have anything planned but you don’t want to have them out every hour to where they will not listen when you challenge them either. Ask yourself what you want them to remember from their visit, and keep this in mind when you plan every activity.
    1. 22.Map out and take them to all the Gospel preaching churches in the city. Tell them how many people attend each church and then compare it to the great need in the country. Show them the churches verses the population. Lay out a map and let them look at it and pray over it. They should leave with a burden for your country and for the world.

 

by Jeffrey Bush

Single on Mission Field – Is it a Good Idea?

Serving as a missionary on the foreign field is one of the most exciting calls in the world.  Seeing lives changed from darkness to life, sharing the Gospel with the lost and being a light in a very dim area is just a few of the pros about serving on the foreign field. But with all of the blessings, there are no doubt struggles. Learning a new language, being “different” with the cultural distinctions and seeing people fall away after you had great expectations for them are just a few of the challenges. There are enough existing hurdles already that we must be careful not to make any unnecessary hurdles. Amongst the unnecessary hurdles is that of being single as a missionary.

Without a doubt, there are people who are going to be single and still serve God (possibly the Lord has led them to be single or they believe they can do more as a single person), but doing ministry as a single person will bring more obvious struggles than that of a married person. This short article has the purpose of revealing the why, in my opinion, it can be more difficult serving as a “single missionary” than a married missionary. My desire is not to scold or mock the unmarried person but to 1) reveal the hardships of being a single missionary and 2) encourage people to pray for a life’s mate with whom to serve God on the field.

A single man has more temptations. While it is true that a single person can devote more time to the things of God (I Cor. 7:32-33) because the married man has a responsibility to his spouse, it’s also true that there are more temptations for a single guy. God made the sexual relationship to be a gift fulfilled only in marriage. Sex is not the most important thing in life but it sure seems to be one of the biggest attention-getters that the secular world promotes and offers. Billboards, magazines/newspapers, commercials, movies and books are just a few of the ways the media pushes the sexual agenda. Whether a man is pure and holy, if he opens his eyes in this world, he can’t ignore the sexual pleas the world throws at him. Marriage is not the solution in the least, but marriage is the outlet created by God for the sexual desires. If a young man (or woman) goes to the mission field single, he is going to be hit by the flamboyant and seductive temptations and will more easily “take the bait” as opposed to a married man. Marriage helps stabilize a man and provides an extra set of defense from the sexual temptations.

A single person cannot effectively minister to married couples, or at least not out of personal experience. Society and media certainly know nothing about marriage, so where do married couples get their advice and help? They can learn not only from the Word of God, but also the messenger teaching and living out the Word of God in every aspect of Christianity. A single missionary teaching on marriage is not as credible as a married missionary speaking from experience. Obviously just being married doesn’t mean someone has a good marriage, but a married missionary who works at his marriage and has a good marriage will have a firm platform from which to teach and preach.

A married missionary is able to help other married couples, but also his wife can help other wives, single ladies, youth and work in any women’s ministry. It would be unnatural for a single man to help ladies (married or single) or work in ladies ministries (or vice versa as in the case of a single missionary woman working with men), so the married couple becomes a team working with both the men and women.

Every missionary has moments of discouragement, but a single missionary does not have a spouse to encourage him/her. The wise king Solomon said that there is power in a team (marriage can be the greatest earthly team known to man) because when one falls, the other can lift him up, but “woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up” (Ecc. 4:10). Anyone who has been in ministry long enough has surely had times where they have questioned if they should quit, move on or even invest in certain people. The single missionary is in danger because when he/she hits that low spot, they have no spouse to “help him up” as Solomon said. We all need to encourage others, but we all need to be encouraged at times and a spouse could be just the person who helps the missionary get back on their feet and continue serving the Lord.

One of the greatest dangers in being a single missionary, in my opinion, is the fact that the single missionary has no one with whom to practice real Christianity. It’s somewhat easy to put on a smile and tell everyone at church you are fine or to be patient for an hour or two with a “needy” church member, but a married person goes home with their spouse. Christianity is truly lived out at home. If a man can lead his home, he can lead a church and ministry. If a man can live out the fruit of the Spirit at home, he will not have any problem living it out anywhere else. Marriage is probably the greatest testing ground for living out the Christian life… and a single missionary loses out in this area.

 

Jeffrey Bush